A new column by Hatice Akyün : Strong is the new pretty

And? The water of the Vase your Valentine's day roses smells? The chocolates of the loved one are still hard in the stomach? Nice, then we can talk about why we have the annual battle of the Flowers, for Valentine's day and women's day brings not a single step in the direction of equality. Please forgive me, I haven't introduced myself yet. I'm New here. The whole migration background chatter, I'll spare you this time and me also.

To me, it's not supposed to go in this first episode of my new column at all, but about why the women in 2019, is still not half of the world. Why do we have to fight something, what is due to us, of course? I would like to hope, full of sound, but when I see the vehemence with which the environmental activist Greta Thunberg, mainly from the male side is addressed, there is no reason to hope. Of course, one can and must criticize the content of Greta Thun Berg's claims. It is agreed, however, that these claims are at all their own. Her, she was the puppet of her parents, would be directed by a PR Agency and lobby groups exploited. That itself is Active, is not capable of. Because she is a girl.

don't worry, to me it is not a question of girls and boys against each other to stir them up. Rather, I would like to raise awareness among us adults, our daughters and sons, not sex teach specific roles. Girls are pretty, sweet, nice, loving and fashion-conscious. Guys are smart, sporty, adventurous, strong, and enthusiastic about technology.

My daughter is twelve years old. In your environment, more and more girls throw themselves at now in the classic girl role. Among your Friends, it is important to look good, to have nice hair. A few want to be "Influencers" – and, of course, non-political influencers inside and Thunberg. The boy-girl thing is not only my personal gut feeling, but also an international study by the world health organization. In 15 countries, children and young people were asked what gender roles growing up. The result: you already taught very early on that girls are beautiful and vulnerable and young, strong and independent. And this message will constantly be spiritual strengthened – by siblings, classmates, teachers, parents, Relatives, coaches.

In my daughter's room the Poster of a girl hangs in sport clothes. Her arms are crossed, and she looks energetic. It is: "Strong is the new pretty." I explained to her that pretty to be a passive, be brave, an active property. She frowned, but I'm sure you understood what I mean. As a mother, I try by all means, the traditional role of images in the education break. We parents are to blame when our daughters think they have to be especially nice. We need to stop to find our daughters beautiful. If we use these attributions, we signal to them that appearance is important. If we lift up that pretty dress more than anything else, we can tell you that it is worth more than their character traits. We praise you, but to have something from his own power managed to strengthen their strength and their courage. And if you want to wear the pink dress, then that's fine too. The Crucial thing is that you have a choice.

8. March as a public holiday in Berlin, the aim of the women's day, only its abolition

the guys are so? Girls also!