One should always be cautious when someone promises easy solutions to heavy problems. Thus, also here.
But you will need and your relationship to tighten up, so you improve your sex & cohabitation, and increases the chance to remain together, you can follow these simple advice.
In the following you will get three tips to improve communication in your relationship, two ways to get closer to your girlfriend, like you get two simple tips to maintain the spark in the bed.
the Advice comes from two american therapists and psychologists Alice Boyes, and get paid to write Cantor, as we have found here, here and here.
You may throw up in your mouth, because you now once again will hear about the importance of good communication.
Suck it up, because it is essential for everything in the relationship. Good communication is the starting point for a more cohesive (and better sex). Fortunately, it is not so complicated to be better to... argue.
like all wise politicians should have this in mind BEFORE they throw the country into a yet another hopeless war that cannot be won, so should the viise girlfriend to have an exit strategy at the bickering. A plan for when and how you pull yourself out of the heated discussion, when it is about to run out of the track.
Many quarrels in relationships is about the same recurring conflicts and issues. Which can hardly be solved. It determines how violent the quarrels are and where the negative impact they have on the relationship, the emotional tone in the fracas.
Kiss & love - 18. jun. 2018 - at. 21:41 Råberen vs. The Quiet Martyr: Are you also guilty of these quarrels?
they Are angry, bitter, hate, kritikfyldte or not?
There comes a point in the discussion where you good at, whether it leads to something productive or not. So here it is about to wind down, so the fracas avoid being hurtful and destructive.
Humor can really disassemble the upcoming drama, if not your gf sees it as a sign that you don't take it seriously.
You can also italesatte your diskussionsmønster, e.g. by saying that this particular topic is very difficult and vulnerable for the both of you, or that it brings a lot of bad memories for you.
Here, the hazard may be that your girlfriend thinks you talk a little giraffe-language and distancing you.
A third possible way of the staircase out of the escalating conflict is to change the subject. Here you can your girlfriend, however, think that you are talking around.
An effective way to avoid a discussion develops into an argument, is to let your girlfriend know that you understand his/her point of view and criticisms.
If you concede that there may be something about it (you work too much, you make a mess, you don't say from the opposite members of the family), she feels that you acknowledge that there is a problem. Even if it does not end up with, you change your behaviour in a big way, because it is hard, so is your partner glad that you are trying.
Everything must be spoken about in a relationship, but it must also be possible to say: ‘This I can not take a position on now, there are too many other things that require my attention. We can find another time to turn it on?’
And here are a few ugenlige evening walks be the perfect forum. The conversation can be less confrontational when you move and goes hand and hand, and not sitting quietly opposite each other.
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In the busy life in the long-term relationship, we take fast each other for granted. We leave and do not give the boyfriend and the relationship that little extra, which increases the joy and the feeling of being seen and recognized.
Here are two quick ways you can try it:
Make something of it, your gf wont fix. Is it him/her who download the young ones or doing the dishes or shopping or ordering sommerferierejsen, so surprise your partner by taking responsibility for it.
It can both lift the burden from my bf's shoulders and give him a feeling that you are watching her, that you do something for her.
Put yourself in, what goes through your girlfriend's thoughts and life for the time being: What happens on the job, what worries her with the kids and his sick mother, has he/she read a book that really has put the thoughts and feelings of the time.
It can be through a practical approach, where you ask inquisitive questions that can get her to talk about her interest. You must do this, even if you think the concern or the interest is silly.
It requires a conscious effort to keep the spark alive in the long-standing and comfortable relationship: comfort, cosiness, relaxation and the soothing feel of the relationship as a warm duvet is incredibly comfortable and alluring - and a bit of a disincentive for sex.
You must still remember that the score his girlfriend. So make sure to find time to be together just the two of you. Call it date night, call it quality time, call it voksentid. At least once a week, it is here to connect you without inquiring pups, bimlende mobiles, loud tv.
give up the unrealistic notions that sex should happen spontaneously, when overwhelmed with bulging lust after each other.
It may seem maria and somehow inauthentic to plan sex, but realize that spontaneous sex is not happening with regular frequency.
Then arrange a time where you both can reach to build anticipation and desire.
Remember, however, that expectations can be to a feeling of pressure and thus destroy the desire, so it is important that both parties feel that there is room to say no, when the time moments.