Don't ask me enjoy barseltida

having children is not for pingler . I have thought immense as many times in the ten weeks that have passed since I was mom to Ezra. One thing is to get her out of the body, it is the a story and an experience in itself that is hard to put into words, but it is really after it it begins. On the real.

When you travel home. With an abdomen that feels like it will fall out, boobs that have been transformed to the two hurt the bricks because you must travel home just as the fish actually come, a bylt on three and a half kilos you suddenly have an overwhelming responsibility for, no sleep for quite a few days... and a whole new life you don't know anything about.

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Barsellivet is as, I have learned by now. And it's not just for me. The challenges and the needs that arise in the fourth trimesteret are many, and they are underkommunisert, both from the public health service and us fødekvinner between.

In every barselhjem sits a freshly baked mum, and she is struggling. For what I have though in the course of the last ten weeks, is that the vast majority are struggling with something, something or other, the first few weeks and months. In addition to get used to that life as you knew it is turned upside down.

And people on the outside congratulations. It is clear they are doing it. There is a lot of love, which comes from the nooks and crannies when one gives birth to children, and I understand the it. I understand the care and attention that is in it, and I appreciate it. But I must also hand on heart say that for every person who said "enjoy it" to me in the first few months - the more angry I became in my body.

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Enjoy the bleeding nipples on the sixth week? Enjoy brystbetennelse number two and three? Enjoy the third klesskiftet for the night because there is milk everywhere? Enjoy the remembrance of the four midwives that cramming elbows down in my stomach right after birth? Enjoy the cleansing the body through? Enjoy to understand what my baby will when she says about anything? Enjoy the fear of doing something wrong? For it is not actually space to enjoy. Not to begin with. It is the only place to try to work, and occassionally there might be some glimpse of joy when you finally have a quiet half hour with a sleeping baby on your lap, well mingled with the full and complete overwhelm.

't get me wrong right . I'm enjoying the kid that lies and sleeps on top of me, that squeaks, that have first time experiences absolutely all the time, and I enjoy to share them with her and with my husband. She is all-consuming, and she is new to my life. I have no resistance against to enjoy, but I need not be told that I need to remember to enjoy. Instead I would want people said something of this:

Is porn harmful? Debate Fy fuck for a job you have done, you are råGi me the number to your husband so I can bombard him with messages istedetHva is it di, and what kind of bread and juice like when is it convenient to come by with dinner, I will not take of me skoaSkal I galley the baby so you can dusjeHvilken breastfeeding bra if you prefer, I guess that you don't have enough, hang them on the døraHvilke ammeinnlegg if you prefer, I guess you don't have enough, hang them on the døraHva kind of ulltrøyer if you prefer, I reckon you don't have enough, hang them on the døraJeg has hung purelan, q-tips, gulpekluter and diapers at the door diDrit in stand up, just stay in bed as long as you need, no matter if it is månederVi going feel free to stop by half an hour's time, so nice that you can stand it, do not think about how it looks, we take with the cinnamon buns and kakaoUngen is objectively at nydeligJeg know it doesn't feel like that now, but hold on – it gets better (only allowed to say if one has a child itself)

So - then you have a smørbrødliste ready the next time someone you love gets a baby in his hands. It requires namely, their village, and it has not, as a new mom, either profit or the ability to ask for help from. It should only appear by itself. the

It means more than it is possible to imagine, far inside the bubble barseltilværelsen is and must be – until it gets better.

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