We think that everything has to done, done, done

Today, one is permanently exposed to the pressure rating. The taxi driver takes his five star, as well as the Influencerin resonance qua heart.
Yes, the social control has extremely increased. Online networks and data abuse play a role. And also the media, the firing of certain feelings through the choice of topics. For some readers, an Addiction, a dependence of this kind of news: Give me my Trump in Trouble, now!

What do these dynamics with private Fears?
In the current political Situation have got some players that, who raises the stress level in the society as a whole, also has the Power to control stress-reduction – and thus a binding to the instance or Person that promises to be this reduction.

"tolerance for ambiguity, for the Endure of open questions turned out to be lower."

As a Tweet, in which Trump is about Iran threatening to reduce Stress is to?
First of all, the excitement among the consumers of the message or tweet is on the rise. Supporters show their solidarity with the President, his opponent annoys the Getwitter. The Anger she chokes, by enhancing the distinction. The provocative propositions to increase the level of stress, and then a mental reaction and lead to polarisation – you think you heard, all of a sudden a group, and knows who his enemies are. Cleavage in the Thinking of reduced short-term Fears, especially when the alleged solution is very simple, too simple.

And if one of them is Trump change?
The Problem we face today is that people think that there must be quick solutions of Stress. The tolerance for ambiguity, for the Endure of open questions turned out to be lower. Everything must be done, done, done. No matter how harmful those fast shots are in the long term.

the mobile phone is a particularly good: things to do, almost incidentally.
The immediate execution transports the feeling: I am effective, I can tick off. This is addictive, because a fast feedback on their actions.

"Every click leaves a something New to see, feeds a vacuum."

what effect does this have on the people?
is in itself not a Bad thing. But, as many people do today continuously, even if they do basically nothing? They produce bogus errands. Each click makes you see something New feeds a vacuum. This activates the brain, triggers a kind of orienting reflex in the mind, which counteracts the feeling of Emptiness.

Leisure does not seem to fit in this rasendste of all time.
I am not speaking of Leisure, on the contrary, I speak of stress tolerance: to tolerate a conflict, although he continues to under-voltage. Imagine if a friend changes his political stance radically. Instead break off the relationship, would be the Ask, the bid, by contrast, keep. This is a kind of psychological work, perhaps the most important in our time: other points of view respect. We have to be little models for people to stay in contact, to stand her Hesitation, the remain cautious, while others are rumbling away. Such properties are no longer occupied a very positive one. Instead, the image from the Oh, is cultivated as decision-making joyful creators. Have a look at pictures of politicians, most of whom have opened the mouth and show somewhere, so they have to arrange permanent something.

we are Working – at least in affluent societies, and doubts about today too much of our perfect image, as a time?
Psychologically, it would be helpful if people would be more uncertainty. You can opt to. The man lives the more relaxed, the more he has contact with his shadow pages and may take. Then you have to hide nothing; look at other people and wonder what stage of the maneuvers, only to be not with a supposed weakness seen. Uncertainty is something Human. Instead, we have developed the fetish of security and the downside of it is the Cumulating of fear. Free rather someone that does not requires to need to be perfect is but.

"If you address the anxiety, it loses the time, the Threatening."

How do you deal as a therapist with this type of shift?
We are working here, in practice, often with traumatized people, and one of its core themes is the loss of perceived safety. In therapy, we try to develop entrenched patterns of thinking and tolerance to the anxiety feeling. This means that the quick anxiety reduction – such as by particularly Unsettling withdraw – will be resisted. You can feel insecure and still continue to live and act. In the interview, we ask: How do you feel about the fear now? It always amazes me: When you address the anxiety, it can be immediately intense, but loses, in time, the Threatening.

Because you allow the fear?
Exactly, because it is Now mostly quiet. Fear lives from the ideas of past shocks and future threats. What makes a not be quiet, is the Drama in your head.

What happens in us when we are afraid of?
fear is mobilized for energy, be afraid, this is your Urfunktion. In the case of a real threat, fear can save your life. In the case of irrational fear or unclear threat, the solution can be shortened to try and be wrong. If you are afraid to go out alone on the road, you have to reduce in the short term, this fear is by staying at home. As long as it is not exposed to any specific risk, it is advisable to check: I'm busy all the time, my fear through avoidance to move away? And in the case of socially relevant Fears: to Close I me radical positions, in order to reduce a vague feeling of threat? Because our Fears gnaw resistant to our ideas, even if they have little to do with reality. The watch, without having to immediately counter it, that is the art. Irrational Fears disappear when you face them.

What kind of tool you need against perhaps even groundless Fears, worry a but still?
tool suggests: There is something to repair. From my point of view, but there is nothing to fix. To stand with his Fears and weaknesses, opens the way to a genuine self-confidence. It is quieter than the means of domination-roar created, but deep and human. Self-acceptance instead of self-optimization.

Created: 04.12.2019, 11:44 PM