The behavior in the Restaurant reveals about the character

on The first Date, most opt for a common food in a Local. Here you can learn, sometimes very much about his Opposite number, says Petra Lienhop. The communication expert from Hannover can look back on decades of experience in the hospitality industry and is trained in seminars, the art of dealing. This good Behavior is not everything, says Lienhop. As we enter a Local, what we order and how we conduct ourselves here says sometimes more about it than we are aware of. A conversation over the first meal together as a litmus test for the relationship.

Why is the first Date almost always in a restaurant?
the history of Evolution, the common food is the most original Form of social behavior, to appreciate the we know. Our ancestors came together at the camp fire and shared the killed game and gathered berries. Moreover, a Restaurant as a semi-public space for a certain amount of security. It has the advantage that you can talk with the unknown Person on the one hand, undisturbed, at the same time, but not alone with her. Then a place offers the opportunity to balance with the other guests, but also with the own values: he or she Is a vegetarian, has he or she an ethical consciousness? How is he or she with the other guests, with the staff? And finally, our attention to emotions and the possibility of social interaction increases the common food proven. We can't choose how we feel, and most of the people is to note your emotional state – but that is exactly what we want to know but on a first Date, or?

Can cater for Vegans and meat-eaters in a relationship?
For some, diet is a matter of Hunger, for some, a question of the attitude to life. Who has prescribed a diet, this is transferred also to his way of life. The can play for a partnership a role. But first, it's about knowing yourself better, and to make it through the night. The Rest is a matter of communication and appreciation. When I say "All meat eaters are murderers", is likely to be very conducive to the mood, just like a condescending point of view on vegetarian. Someone goes with the theme of left, testifies to the tolerance and is also an important Basis for any love relationship.

"people who really know, remain sovereign, and renounce the teachings."

Then is a common food can be a stress test for a future relationship?
In any case, you can learn a lot about his counterpart. For example, you can see this very well if someone is eating as a sensual process. Whether or not the Person shoveling a meal inside or enjoy. If anyone in the eat a nibble or with the joy of eating. If someone checks everything or the kitchen, familiar and radiant with joy, for the Cutlery attack. All of this says something about the personality of a human being – just like the preference or openness to specialties from other cultures. So it may well be a first building block for a future relationship.

on a first Date, you want to make a good impression – can you confirm?
In the learning phase to know a lot of people think, you should particularly Shine. Not infrequently, the temptation, in a Local to invite, that he or she cannot afford to succumb to someone – in the hope that the accompaniment only ordered an Appetizer. But what if it is the Three-course menu? Therefore, better remain authentic. Braggart best be reached if the opposite is true. If know-it-alls to counter the wine recommendation of the waiter with a keynote speech – "So I wine from the South of France think Yes for overestimated" or the pronunciation of the partner's correct – "That is Wuuustersosse!" – do you usually out of insecurity. People who really know, remain sovereign, and renounce the teachings. Who has no idea will win through honesty: "I don't know my way around, drinking, but fond of good wine. What are you, white or red like?" It shows also, if anyone is interested in the other – and that's on the first Date but actually.

"It is helpful to understand cross-culturally, how this Person is eating has learned."

there Are dishes from which you at the first dinner would discourage?
If you don't want to get in Loriot's footsteps, I recommend to refrain from Spaghetti, as well as on peas, the roles of the fork. The same is true for dishes in which it is unclear how they are to eat. Except, I'm honest and say: "We can take the Hummer, have no experience. Can you show me how to do this?" So we will spare ourselves and others not only a disappointment, but at the same time creating trust. Prefer to ten points in the sympathy - as in the etiquette scale.

How do I handle this, if the behavior is irritating my counterpart?
It is assumed, however, not everyone is aware of the stylish dealing with a knife and fork. In the US, for example, is only zerschnippelt and then "shoveled". Since it is helpful to understand cross-culturally, how this Person is eating has learned. Often, we cannot help but to react on such a behavior, but it depends on the tone. On a first Date, I would not appeal to the self-elbows on the table, but rather a good example. Then the other Person falls hopefully, all by itself, that our Behavior is different. By the way, the behavior in a Restaurant is quite the character close. Notice as someone enters the room, how the Person moves and behaves: Is there a popular regular guest, and the boss pats him on the shoulder? Around hounding the waiter and complains about every little thing?

"self-worth should be high enough to have an invitation as an expression of appreciation to accept."

What is polite Gestures – are asked the traditional role of images?
it depends entirely on the Situation and the two people. In a Pizzeria I can't expect a 25-Year-old, perhaps, that he moves me to the chair – that would be too out of place. On the other hand, it can be highly irritating, such a nice gesture from false vanity, to reject, according to the Motto "Thank you, but until the first stroke I can put on my coat alone."

At the end is often the question of who pays for it. It is best to try to split the bill – for example, to get rid of possible expectations?
A possibility, but not forced. Pay the Person can run out of the invitation. Self-worth should be high enough to such an invitation as an expression of appreciation to accept. However, I must say: "thanks for the invitation, but I'm not interested in another Meeting." Certainly, it is problematic if the expectation is different. Women have a particularly hard time with this to say: "it Was nice, but as of today, we go our separate ways". But the next day, when the thanks for the invitation is by telephone, it is possible to be clear about that. Without justification, without a debate.

Created: 09.12.2019, 18:07 PM