Why do not we do without the lies

"Why do not we do without the lies"

"the Professor: They are necessary social lubricants"

"do you Lie sometimes? A negative answer to the question is probably – is just that – a lie."

"To lie is human, and we do it often."

"– One should strive to live their lives in honesty, but people are not always served by hearing the truth, " says Stefan Einhorn, author and professor."

"Let's say you just bought a winter jacket for a few hundred dollars. It was on the expensive side, but some one must of course get to indulge in. You come home and get the question:"

"”Oh, what was the cost of the which really?”"

"”Oh, it was not so dangerous. Type 800 crowns”."

"You are wandering around a little bit with the eyes and hides quickly away receipts and price tags. Now lying is a way to avoid a boring discussion. The worse it gets probably about a couple of years later has been playing online for the family savings, have you juicy credits and messed up in a tangle of financial problems."

"When the bailiff stands and look around behind the house, and you risk to destroy your family. But what is really a lie and why we are lying?"

"– A lie is a conscious untruth. It is hoped that the counterparty shall accept what you say as a truth. If I think things are a certain way and says it, it is no lie, " says Stefan Einhorn."

"He says that there are several reasons why we lie. In the first place works lie as a social lubricant."

"– and If you show your new coat and it looks like something out of a horror movie need not I say it to you. If a child has drawn a completely unrecognizable cat and says: ’Look at my cat, isn't it nice?’ need I not say: ’No, it looks awful!’"

"the Other reasons as to why we draw a waltz is that we want to portray ourselves in a better light."

"We lie to protect ourselves and others."

"– You will be accused of talking bad about someone and say ’No, I have never done’. You lie to protect yourself. If you are hiding asylum-seekers and refugees in the basement, it is likely that you lie about it to protect them, " says Stefan Einhorn."

"of Course lie is associated with a more or less large amount of risk."

" It's not so risky to say that I think your new blouse is fine if I don't like it, for it is very unlikely that you'll be able to uncover the lie. The greater risk is to keep his wife in captivity, and lie about it. Or to lie in a trial and go there for perjury."

"Where is the boundary between a white lie and a regular lie?"

"– I tend to not divide lies into white and non-white. I say that you need to assess every lie. I think it is worth to strive to be as honest as possible. But people who say that they are always honest, they always say what they think, create in the rule issues around them."

"– They argue that it is a virtue. They make it very easy for themselves but creates a trail of devastation behind them. People are not always served by the truth. One should strive for honesty, but don't be rigid."

"According to Stefan Einhorn, we are being influenced not so much by lying – provided that we do it for a good reason. We live, however, our life by a lie, it is worse."

"What should you do if you realize that even a lie has gone out of control?"

"– It is difficult to give a general answer, but try to avoid to live their lives in a lie is obvious. Whether one should talk about their online poker game or their child, I leave open. You should make sure that, as good as one can, to try to live his life in honesty."

"a Lot of times it can feel shameful to lie, but if the lie does more good than what the truth would do, you do not need to be ashamed, think Stefan Einhorn. We have made a conscious decision."

"– Sometimes, lifting people out the lies when they didn't need to, and then it is too late. Then I can understand that you feel ashamed afterwards. But I can not say what lies to be ashamed of, it would surely be france."

"There are different science reports about how often we lie. According to the the one we are lying three times daily. According to the other eight times. Despite the claim, some decided that they certainly never do it."

"– When talking with people it turns out that the vast majority of lying. There are those who claim that they are always honest, but I wonder if they are not lying when they say it. When one asks, ’Have you never been on a dinner and said it was good when it wasn't it?’ Then they say that it is not a lie. But it is there. According to them it is an acceptable lie."

"There is a clear distinction between not saying anything and lying," says Einhorn. To use lies as a social lubricant is a way for people to better interact with each other."

"How do you know if someone is lying?"

" It is very difficult to see. It need not at all be so that they fold away with the gaze and looking guilty. On the contrary, the look in the eyes more than ickelögnare and give shorter answers."

"– he said in an extremely convincing way. I think it depends on that it was a slip of the truth. He did not have sexual intercourse with her and thought thereby that he was not lying, because they had oral sex. It was a cleverly executed lie."

"May you live happily even though you're lying?"

"– Yes, obviously, because the vast majority are lying, and many swedes say they are happy."

"– I belong to the average, and lie well, a number of times every day. In most cases, the ”smörjmedelslögner”, says Stefan Einhorn and laughs."

"Cecilia Rindbäck Vangbo"