Whether the sex was good or bad, for many there is only one criterion: the orgasm. Whether or not you cum is just one factor in a fulfilling sex life. However, there is an imbalance between the sexes: the so-called “orgasm gap”. According to a survey from 2021, just under 20 percent of women in heterosexual relationships get their money's worth and climax during sexual intercourse.
For comparison: among men it is almost half. Anyone who now deduces from this that it is almost only women who fake an orgasm is wrong. A recent survey by the scientific information service "Innerbody" among 1,119 men and women showed that women fake an orgasm at almost 46 percent more often. But even among men, 38.2 percent of those surveyed stated that they had already staged a climax.
So far, so good - the researchers then asked the survey participants why they wanted the sex to be ended as quickly as possible by faking an orgasm. Some of the answers were – well – laughable. First of all, however, your ability to estimate is required - what do you think:
In fact, at 40 percent, the partner's bad breath is the most frequently given reason why there is only a fake climax in bed. Okay, bad breath might not be the sexiest thing imaginable. But there must be a few other factors that make this fact the deciding factor for a fake groan.
A sex position that is uncomfortable for the partner follows in second place (32.3 percent), which is a little more understandable. But why the room temperature, at 31.5 percent, is the third most common reason for a deal à la “Harry and Sally” is something only those involved know. Does it get too hot for them and they have to pull the plug? Or does it chill her naked too much?
Also fourth in the survey, the light in the room (31.1 percent) seems unusual at first glance. A very self-reflective answer then ranks fifth, namely that you think about everything so much that you cannot really relax in order to actually enjoy the sex (30 percent). Penis size (23.6 percent) follows in sixth place – whether too big or too small is not broken down further in the survey.
Although they end up at the bottom of the overall ranking, illnesses such as depression or prescribed medications that limit libido were also given by over 16 or 15.7 percent of those surveyed as a reason for a fake climax. Lack of drive also appears in the list at 15.3 percent.
Could it be the shame of failure or trying not to disappoint your sex partner? To learn more about this, the researchers offered study participants five specific answer options. There were some gender differences here.
Psychologists found in a 2019 study that women in general are more likely to fake it to get positive feedback. Men, on the other hand, are more likely to fake it to avoid the inconvenience of not ejaculating.
But avoiding problems, shame or boredom during sex can also be reasons. This roughly corresponds to the information from the survey by "Innerbody". In the end, the same applies to orgasms: Only those who talk openly about everything can be helped.
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