Something doesn't work out on this third date of the second episode. Bachelor David goes with a fairly large group of women to eat ice cream (before that they drive over uneven roads in a VW Bulli, that's supposed to be funny, but it looks uncomfortable), there's vanilla and chocolate ice cream. While licking ice cream, one of the women first reveals to him that she is actually still married and has a child. In a show like this, you always have to react to the child with great enthusiasm, but David lets the marriage swallow for a moment.
Another asks the muscle-bound Swabian, who is sitting shirtless in front of her: "Do you actually do sports?" . And Saskia, yes, Saskia answers the question of which ice cream she wants, vanilla or chocolate: "I'll take you as chocolate!" and points to David.
Awkward moment, she laughs in embarrassment, "I didn't say that!" and clasps her hands in front of her face. Yes, she has, David doesn't say anything about it for the first time, but in a one-on-one conversation with Saskia the mood is so bad as if he were Peter Zwegat on "Raus aus den Schuld!" and Saskia an unrepentant recipient of citizen money who plays video games on credit every month buys.
"I found the saying wrong and couldn't laugh at it," he clarifies, "I've had too much experience with such stories, I've suffered too much. When I meet a woman who says something like that, it triggers something in me - no matter how you mean it!" Because of course Saskia says that she "didn't mean it badly", she was such a direct person and her humor, her irony, sometimes goes wrong.
David is aware that for many, Saskia's comment certainly sounds harmless, "I didn't mean it that way", but racism is something completely different. Therefore, with his brief explanation he hints at what author and podcaster Alice Hasters wrote a whole book about (“What white people don't want to hear about racism but should know”) – the experiences with supposedly harmless comments, Hasters calls it “racism in the Little ones" and describes similar scenes: "For a long time I thought that people who grab my hair without being asked, automatically address me in English, who, even before they know my name, ask me where I come from, or the color of my skin and everything on it Comparing the world, what is brown or black - that is just normal and to be accepted. friendly curiosity. (...) But racism on a small scale, in everyday life, is related to racism on a large scale.”
A stupid joke, a secret thought, an ill-considered prejudice - it all comes from the same story, from the same historical root, writes Hasters.
And she also writes that even what seems “harmless” has “big effects”: “In everyday life, at school, on my body, in love and in the family. (...) These little moments, they seem like mosquito bites. Hardly visible, bearable in detail, but in sheer sum the pain becomes unbearable.” In her book, the author describes that she decided to also address the “stupid joke” in her everyday life, that she consciously confronts people, only then would something change.
David also confronts Saskia and her "stupid saying", low-threshold, but in the night of the roses she picks up the topic again after a sleepless night. She acknowledges that as a white person she cannot understand his experiences and thanks David for bringing this to her attention. It is, very unironically, almost a little picture book dialogue, even David seems reconciled in view of their serious efforts.
She has to go anyway, he wouldn't be the man for her, she wouldn't be the woman for him, even without the ice remark. And he actually has some other candidates with whom it has a lot more "vibet", as young people say today. With Chiara he dances a kind of mute mating dance, she feels it "like a wedding", with Angelina he releases baby turtles into the sea. In the sunset, that could be highly romantic, Angelina would not tell him about her nickname: "Everyone calls me Utze!", She announces.
And with every incredulous “Utze?” from the bachelor, a butterfly flutters away.
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