I am now for the second time been invited to interview at the municipality, because someone has made an anonymous notification to me as a mother.
I'm alone with two children of three and five years. I live in the city in an old property with bad soundproofing to the neighbors – you can hear almost everything.
my children, they have in periods been very restless and has been crying loudly for up to a few hours. The problem is that the one tricker the other, and then start all over again. I have never beaten my children, yelled or screamed at them. But I have of course been the need to set limits, and it may sound violent, when at the same time, crying and overtired by bedtime.
And this is also what the notification is about, that ’you’ have seen it is very violent in over a longer period of time, and that ’man’ has been concerned about, what is going on in the home.
when I was called in for an interview, was a very unpleasant experience; I felt almost accused of violence against my children. I felt like I had to defend myself against something I have not done. However, the closed municipality case, since they considered that there was nothing to come after. But now they have again got a notification on the same, to ’you’ hear the cry from our home.
One thing is that I feel accused of anything, as there is nothing hold is in – another thing is that I feel watched, where I live. I have since the first alert well been able to figure out that it must be one of our neighbours, who have informed, but I know not exactly who
and it makes me uncomfortable. I can almost not walk past them without thinking, that perhaps it is those who are behind the notification.
Can I in any way require that the municipality indicate who has informed so I can contact and talk to him?
I am appalled that you no longer can feel safe in his own home without risking to be falsely accused, because one's young ones cry.
It is an unpleasant situation, you as a mother have ended up in. Always remember – whatever the feeling – you have nothing to hide, and that they just examine everything what they want. Often the municipality is not anonymous notifications as seriously as the alerts, where there is provided an identity. But the municipality has ALWAYS the duty to investigate. the
social Worker Puk Sabber manager the social letterbox. Photo: Jakob Boserup
In relation to your option to obtain an anonymous inform, it all depends on how the anonymous notification is made. If the inform has made use of a digital solution via a form on the internet and also have used an anonymous email address, so you can no make up.
– for example, the telephone – can inform well have stated some facts that ’reveal’ their identity, and as the municipality has notatpligt, it will appear in the case, if you are looking for access.
But often informs the examiner/the municipality requests that, if shall want 100 percent anonymity, so they must not disclose the name or anything else that can identify them via notatpligten. So your only option is to seek access to documents.
Otherwise, take an open talk with the nearest neighbours about it – and tell them about the situation, and how you have it with it – that way you can encourage them to come to you next time.
to be berøringsangste and just set each other to the system. Instead having your neighbor knock on and say, ’Hey, your kids are screaming, can I help you with something. Maybe you need a hand?’.
Unfortunately experiencing more and more to be informed anonymously, and it is very taboo, why do many not tell that they have experienced it – it is skamfyldt, and many choose to keep it for themselves. I hope you find inform – and get a proper talk with him so you can once again feel safe, even if your kids cry at bedtime.
knowing that a child is exposed to neglect or degrading treatment, has a statutory duty to notify the municipality. The same applies if the child lives in conditions that can bring its health or development at risk.
hours has a municipality to assess whether there is a need to take urgent measures in respect of a child or young person. This is because, when the municipality has received a notification, it has the duty to assess whether there is a basis to investigate the child's circumstances.
and persons exercising public functions, have a heightened duty to inform the social authorities if they are aware of the troubling relationship. Fagpersonen get as a starting point, a briefing on whether the notification has led to the follow-up studies or measures.