Conversations about sex enhances sexual arousal - especially for women.
This is the main conclusion of a new large metastudie, where researchers have reviewed previous studies on the area.
it is important to point out that sexual communication is not just about talking about the issues you may have in the relationship - sexsamtaler can also be to tell about (and listen to) the experiences, needs and desires as well as attitudes to sexuality.
And here is also sex-frequency and the feeling that you can talk about both the negative and positive parts of the sexual intercourse with the partner of the important parameters.
All else being equal, it is quite certain that a few are not completely in phase in relation to both sexual frequency and sexual desires. And therefore, it is of course logical that you are about to open up godteposen and honestly tell his gf what you like and don't like, both in general and specific terms, give the partner the knowledge that he/she can then translate into actions.
So, you get probably more of it, it turns you on, and less of what doesn't work.
The other hovedgrund to sexual communication has a positive effect on sextilfredsheden is that it to open itself increases the intimacy and cohesion in the relationship, which then increases the desire to share sexual thoughts and worries - and a virtuous circle is created.
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And when the couple does NOT have a satisfactory sexkommunikation about desires and dislikes etc, goes haywire in the above process - which leads to sexual problems.
the Researchers behind the new study examined a number of previous comparable studies, in which the sexparametre as orgasms, lubrikation, potency, arousal, and desire, and overall satisfaction with sexual arousal included.
Here are some of the conclusions:
Sexual communication hangs positively correlated with all areas of the sexual functions for both men and women:
More desire for sex, greater arousal, better erections, more lubrikation, better and more orgasms, and fewer problems with premature or late ejaculation, and less pain.
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however, There are certain gender differences: in Particular in relation to lust, sex and orgasms bonner sexkommunikation extra good for women. Just as the reverse also is extra clear for women: Do you find it difficult to talk about sex in the relationship, she has less desire for sex.
The context, explains the researchers, is that women's sexuality to some degree is more responsive than spontaneous (i.e. something to put the desire in time, rather than it popping up by itself) and it requires more communication first, not second, so compared to, that her boyfriend has been told what he must do in order to liven up the fire. And so the whole of the great circle, we mentioned above:
‘This receptivity may lead to positive emotional and physical outcomes, which increases motivation and receptivity to future sexual encounters. Sexual communication facilitates this cycle, as women who are more likely to respond positively to their partners’ advances may also be more comfortable discussing sexual topics within the context of the relationship.’
In the same way it makes good sense, especially women's orgasms be boosted by sexkommunikation. Partly quite practical: What should the girlfriend do, she gets orgasm, and partly to the more psychological side of the matter, where the intimacy of sexsamtaler increase her her safety, and thereby the ability to give himself over to the orgasm.
It also shows that the longer the relationship lasts, the more important is sexsamtaler for sexual arousal.
going Forward, researchers hope that more studies will focus on the man and the man's sexual functions, since most have the woman as the primarily focal point.
Besides calling for more studies with gay couples - and so the scientists hope that experiments with different forms of communication of the couple will be able to identify the specific contexts in which the and the type of sexsamtale improves and the sexual area.
Until then, Tell your girlfriend about good sexual experience, talk about a few dislikes, lifting the veil for some fantasies - and remember to listen interested, when the boyfriend reciprocate. It can almost not go wrong.
Kiss & love - 10. sep. 2018 - at. 23:34 Six sexspørgsmål you should ask your girlfriend
The american therapist Ari Tuckman give here two examples of sexsamtaler:
How does one sex a great experience for each other? It may require that you are extremely specific in its opinions, and to ask for the partner's preferences.
Here is both the wording and tone important; Perhaps demand your partner something in the conversation, as In not have tried before, e.g. gentle bondage where you tie him to the bed and allows the blindfold on. Here you can get to ask 'why it turns on you, why do you like it?' in a wrong tone - accusatory, reproachful, contemptuous humoristiskt, passive-aggressively, timidly etc. and so it is likely that your partner shuts down completely in the future.
instead, Ask for with curiosity and openness, and then you can share your thoughts and feelings about it.
keep in mind that none of you are forced to do it, the partner has to want to. It is first and foremost to demonstrate a willingness to understand each other and each other's perspective. True intimacy requires that we be ok with what you reveal to each other, especially when you are not in the same place sexually.
And so you might think, that sexsamtalen is finally over, when the clothes come of and In is in the time. But here also is the clear communication is essential. What works, what doesn't work. Here is the feedback in a positive and non-judgemental way the way forward - you need both the ability to give and receive it.
You must make an effort to read your partner and to ask for feedback when you are unsure of, just like you must work to not react scared or negative, if you perceive the feedback as criticism.
Here should not be to blame for something - for example, it is inappropriate, if you do not receive the feedback properly and seems upset about it, then get your partner to guilt, and dare not open up in the future.