Catia Hultquist: The doubt feminism is a big fat dead end

”Wow!”

in the Midst of the conversation, interrupts her, taking the round belly and shines up.

”It kicks!”

On a second thrown I back to that feeling of small strange movements inside the body. From the first fjärilsfladdret to the bizarre close encounters of the third kind-the experience when you suddenly can see the outline of a bebisfot under the skin.

experience of carrying a child in the stomach not affected me would be just silly. Equally strange would it be to say that the memory of being heavily pregnant would have been me without a trace past. Then, when your only goal is to get the new miracle of life alive, when the slightest distraction causes you to be Gravidzilla.

Make this experience me to an essentially different creature, which is completely different than a person who does not have it, for example, a man? Or is it actually possible that we humans can understand each other anyway?

During the metoohösten 2017 told many men about how their understanding of the specific female experiences increased then they listened to the testimonies that poured out. Among others described DN:s Erik Helmerson his awakening, after taking part of Jennifer Wegerups experience of working as a female sportswriter among men:

”I have seen my jobs /.../ protected normality. What lies beneath the surface, the rotting undergrowth, I never got to see, hear, and feel. For one reason only: I was born as a man.”

emotional understanding and insight was followed up in the mansrörelse after Josefin Nilsson-the documentary stepped forward and selected. Men who want to possible to show solidarity with the victims of violence, terrorized women and to counteract the destructive sides of the male role. A refreshing twist in a tiresome könskrig, I thought at the time.

But in a rather disappointing essay on gender roles in his attention to Joel Halldorf a completely opposite movement. Men and women are drifting apart, he warns. ”The distance grows, and if könsgapet continues to widen, it can become an insurmountable ravine.”

He refers inter alia to the growing political difference between the sexes – that is to say that the women vote to the left, men to the right and twice as many men as women vote for SD as well as to studies which show that sexual activity drops among young people.

modern-day idols, whose unique selling point is a polarising between the sexes. For example, the comedian Mia Skäringer, which attracts primarily women, and in his show ”No more fucks to give” including jokes about ”how men are”, and mansprofeten Jordan B Peterson, who do much the same thing but without the jokes.

Recently featured the fourth-wave feminism, the so-called Instagramfeminismen, in an article by Kristina Lindh in the SvD. In addition to its frontfigurer mastered social media to perfection and has extremely many your followers, bubbles it of the seditious könspolarisering and biologism here.

It is women against men, we and they. And how much I can sympathize with the positive power that instafeministerna poses, I also put up a giant sign with ”warning for biologismfeminism”, because it always turns out to be a big fat dead end – the women and men are, after all, more alike than different.

I will always remember how it feels to have had a child in the stomach so I hope that my reaction when a pregnant woman is pressed against a bench of guards in the subway would be the same even without the experience. I would respond, not because I am a woman, but because I am human.

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