Parents interpret the Attacks by the children as Dökterle

The counseling Castagna has issued a publication, in which she addresses sexual abuse among children. It happens today more often than in the past?
no, we have been around for years in many cases. In 1999, our predecessors wrote a book on this topic. But it is a difficult topic, therefore, is hardly talked about, despite #MeToo movement, and in spite of the abuse cases in the Catholic Church.

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We advised last year, 1090 people from all over Switzerland, who were affected by sexual Assault. Around 60 percent of the goods Concerned at the time of the murder twelve years of age or younger. In 77 cases, there were children up to twelve years, which had perpetrated the deed.

they said it was a difficult topic. What is it exactly what makes it so difficult?
children are, by definition, innocent. You are sexually grip, interpret it to parents or caregivers as a "Dökterle". For parents, it is difficult, if you learn that your child has prosecuted another sexually. They often react defensively, trivialize the incident or discredit the victim. In this way, you are trying to save their world. But I must say: It is actually hard to imagine that an eight-year-old penetrated a four-year-old girl, or that a first grader is forcing the other to oral sex.

How is it so far?
Well, come children never to such ideas; their sexual acts differ from those of adults. This means that the physical children need to have role models. Maybe you have observed adults, you may have seen in porn. In the past, most children have seen at most of the newsstands, posting a naked breast. Today, you only have to go to the Internet and Google the word "Porn". The actions in porn, imitate the children.

Where are the boundaries between Dökterle and sexual Assault?
For outsiders, they do not realize is actually easy to use. For an affected child but: Dökterle stops where it feels threatened. It is confused and have no idea what happened. The physical child is almost always a close related person. The victim feels attracted to him, after an Attack it has, but also afraid of him. What can you say but: The Dökterle is never exercised coercion, and the children involved are on the same level of development. Ideally, only involved two children, because in a group is often exerted pressure.

When one speaks of children as perpetrators, in front of you boys. There are actually boy or girl?
In children under the age of twelve, girls are still more likely; in this age, the consciousness is still hardly available, that sexual Assaults are harmful. Twelve-year-old girl to commit, however, in General, only very rarely sexual offences against children. Only a few women who perpetrate sexual Assaults are adults.

How can protecting your children from sexual Assault?
The best way to tell you specifically what is not allowed: no one shall you touch between the legs. You want to teach the child to say no, then it will be in case of an emergency quickly overwhelmed. As our surveys show, children in need in 95% of cases by family members, Relatives or close persons of reference miss. A child is almost never in the position to say such a near-reference person no.

How to do if a child was in need of a sexually abused?
We recommend that the responsible access authority in each case to a specialist. Children under ten years of age are not prosecuted because of the age of majority and legally can't be prosecuted. We recommend ever after to report the incident to the Kesb, or the police – in the hope that you get the physical child receives specialist support. For us, it's not at all a question, to popularize the children's demon or to criminalize. But you know that people who have been in grip, can rarely stop themselves.

And if the parents do not participate?
parents and caregivers to address a lot of damage, if you look the other way, and although the victims as the perpetrators. You must make them aware of it. Children who exploit others sexually, are in deep Distress. You feel feelings of powerlessness and feel helpless. If you exert yourself the power to humiliate, to make you feel for a Moment more powerful. Only in a specialized psychotherapy, you can learn other strategies to cope with their inner conflicts.

(editing Tamedia)

Created: 06.05.2019, 19:15 PM