If Christine Beier, 53, the photo album of your Childhood, leafing through the pages, she is still angry. She is the youngest of three sisters, who are apart only three years. "My oldest sister, there are masses of photos," she says, "from the middle, too many, of me but only a couple: one as a Baby, a back-to-School, a to communion."
you can find the indicative of their Position in the family. "I was the youngest, so important, my parents also had so much time." Christine Beier, who is, in reality, differently, is make sure your rank in the family had a formative influence on her career, she evaluates himself as not particularly successful. After high school, you don't know for a long time, what should they study, and, finally, was a primary school teacher. With 40 you got a Burn-out, and switched to a Montessori teacher, what makes you more or less Fun. Her older sister, the one with the photos, on the other hand is Head of a well running Bio-shop, the center has studied business administration and project Manager in a larger operation.
The experience of Christine Beier is consistent with the observation of many in everyday life, but also with scientific findings that date back to the 1920s: the Position in The family has a formative influence on the character. This also applies to properties that are crucial for a profession, a career and success. First-born are considered to be assertive and authoritarian, they are natural born Chefs, Sandwich-children are regarded as ideal intermediaries, the nest checkmark have their Strengths in the social field, but are not so close to success.
A Search of the "süddeutsche Zeitung" in the 30 companies on the German stock index seems to confirm this: Many wanted to give no information, however, among the twelve CEOs, whose Family is known, it is striking that no nest check. Seven of the twelve grew up as an only child or first-born. Ex-Thyssenkrupp chief Heinrich Hiesinger had to probably prove the most enforcement power: He is the oldest of six children. Also five Sandwich-children are represented among the twelve, the Dax-bosses.
"I don't find the result surprising," says the Berlin psychotherapist and book author Wolfgang Krüger. According to his experience, the Siblings has a significant influence on the career. The differences later in the career would be, therefore, that children learn different strategies to gain the attention of the parents. These typologies are emerging:
It enjoys the first of all attention of the parent that needs these parts, but when the second child comes. It will be dethroned"", receive less care and have to fight for his Position. "If you want to survive in this crisis, you may be stressed to feeling, you must develop the ability, perseverance, and a quest for power," says psychotherapist Kruger. These are exactly the properties that are in demand in a top job, you must endure it to live without the recognition of others. First-born, responsible, competitive, authoritarian, and conventional. In short: are you prepared for the big career.
Depending on the constellation, there are other Strengths and weaknesses: The Sandwich-kid draws the short straw. Photo: Sally Anscombe ()
The middle child is in the worst Position: It has often enjoyed only for a short time, all the attention of the parents, must make again. After that, the older child, he is the ranking by performance, and the younger by the care of the parents. "The Sandwich-child must be okay with that, it takes a long time just a little attention," says Krüger. But then there is a Chance stuck In the middle-born children the ability to be undisturbed for projects of the future and to pursue long-term strategies. They are in the profession often are not particularly convincing, but in the long term, by their technical competence. "If you start to the top, many are surprised," says Krüger. Because in the case of Sandwich-to children a other expertise: you have learned with Younger and Older to get along, you are communicative and a team player – properties that are in the modern professional world is just as important as authority and assertiveness.
The more children parents have, the more you educators to and Elan. You do not have so much time for the individual child. For the late-born child has the advantage that it does not have to fight for as many rights as the firstborn. On the other hand, but it will have to fight more to get the attention of the parents. "Later-born children have to stand out and be a special niche, by playful, cooperative and, above all, rebellious," wrote the Belgian psychologist Vassilis Saraglou and Laure Flasse, in the year 2003. Nest contact check mark, therefore, often joyful, socially engaged and good seller. But they are oriented to the other, reluctantly. Sometimes they were spoiled, therefore, you are not dominant, or authoritarian features, which the head of a large company needs. Nest check mark rather through wit, charm, and creativity, you quickly learn that often there are scientists, artists or athletes. Some shows also occur due to rebellious behavior: Revolutionaries such as Charles Darwin, Karl Marx and Mahatma Gandhi were the last-born.
It was always in the center, was never "dethroned". Therefore, it has a stable self-consciousness, and is suitable for leadership positions. "The crucial question, however, is whether it has developed sufficient social skills," says Krüger. If a single child has not learned, disappointments, defeats, and conflicts, it is suitable, however, not for a boss role.
A consolation for all who feel a hit in the characterizations bad: The typologies show only statistical probabilities, they are not ultimate truths. It also depends on other factors: the example of the parents, education, education. In the case of a first-born can also develop the characteristics of a Nest check, and Vice versa. (Editorial Tamedia)
Created: 21.03.2019, 21:05 PM