Sexual fantasies does not need to inventing to come up. Usually wishes comes however to mind when the topic dare to think about. Fantasies can be important only in your own mind, and not to tell the partner. If the fantasy is, however, something like that, which another people have a role, a fantasy may not be able to implement without telling.2. Learn how to talk sex talk
Sex can be for you the most difficult topic, but you can still develop it. It is essential to talk about sex in a safe situation and the words that fit your own mouth.
– the Only truth, personal way to talk about sex, sexual pleasure and needs can break through the last of inhibitions and will help to open up, write Rosa Meriläinen and Sanna Seiko Salon in her book the sex talk book.
the sex talk, learning doesn't happen at once, because sex is a sensitive topic, which is enough to learn throughout life.Sharon McCutcheon / Unsplash3. Write wishes booklet or the letters
their Own fantasies and desires can also write to the partner, if writing feel more natural way to communicate than just speaking. You can also write first message and you can talk about it later.4. Show me what you wish
If you know what kind of touch or even movement of hope to the sex, show it and advice your partner in practice. It is unfair to criticise another's skills, if not the company itself in every way to help. Responsibility for your own pleasure, however the laptop itself.5. How to start a fantasy talking about in talking about failures after?
in a New relationship is easier to talk about sex openly like in the old relationship. Old in relation to the habit of difficult speech. According to the research women fear that communicating with their own fantasies and cravings, could offend men. Sex life the problem is most of them couples, who find it difficult to talk about sex.
Johanna Ruonala and Sanna herka plant voice communication in the book according to the reflection about sex talk about the difficulty in crystallizing the fact that people are trying to avoid the insult from the partner to protect the relationship and avoiding therefore conflicts and want to be accepted in a couple relationship. So in the old relationship to get the sex talk, these fears and feelings is good to bring out in the open.
Source: Rosa Meriläinen & Sanna Seiko Salon: IT - the sex talk book, Karisto 2018.