Suddenly homeless – if Teenagers are kicked out

Stefanie was 17 when she was kicked out of the house. It was not in their notes. You did not do any drugs, not even smoked. Friends liked the introverted high-school girl, with the mother, but she was always noise. Noise bad, with many insults, the Stefanie is very injured. At some point, she felt no longer as a human being, but only as a Problem. After the arrival of the new friend of your mother, the Situation escalated. The daughter had to pack her things. The Problem is Stefanie was for the mother from the table.

Darya Baranova well remembers the young woman, Stefanie, who rang one Evening at Nemo, the Zurich-based emergency accommodation for young people between 16 and 20 years. Baranova, the operating Director of the Foundation social work pastor Sieber, launched in emergency accommodation in Zurich's Kreis 3. In the house nothing is reminiscent of siffige mass strikes. There is a cozy living area with a dining table, TV and piano, four large rooms, with a total of 10 beds, for both boys and girls have a private bathroom. Everything is clean, the furniture are new, donated by Ikea. Currently, the majority here are young men housed, until about five years ago, it was mainly young women.

Sex for a warm bed

That young people are placed in front of the door because the parents are completely overwhelmed, come in all layers of society, told the 33-Year-old. Just be stranded a Boy, Nemo, who come from a very wealthy parent's house. The majority of young people in Nemo has a Swiss passport and the parents go to work, no one will notice what's going on at home. "Sometimes the young people no longer run away from themselves because they can't stand the Situation at home," says Baranova. The districts then in the case of friends, others pay for a warm bed with sexual favors, some find in occupied homes shelter. However, this is usually only for a couple of nights, not infrequently, the adolescents experience violence, and eventually you are back on the road.

"Nemo provides security, and the daily Stress to have a roof over your head search, fall away," says Baranova. Thus, a basic need is at least covered, and the young people could come to rest. Last year, Nemo over 1000 overnight Stays recorded; the majority of homeless people sleep there during several weeks. The number of those who log in for the first Time in the case of Nemo, however, continuously: in 2016, the emergency shelter took in 40 Teenagers, and this year it was 80. This is a doubling in three years. Darja Baranova believed that the rise of a greater awareness of the Nemo context.

offers in Basel and Bern

In Basel and Bern there are similar offers, which are also actively used. The cantons of Basel-Stadt and Basel-land have no actual emergency accommodation, but they offer so - called Emergency in five existing children's and youth homes. Offered annually use around 20 young people, the majority is 15 or 16 years old. In Bern, the E. R. group for adolescents (NAG). This year, the six available beds, were utilized to almost 100 percent. An average of 47 young people per year find shelter, almost two-thirds of girls.

"Many young people tell us parents that give you the feeling that you are worth nothing."Darja Baranova, Director of Nemo, an emergency shelter for young people

According to Darja Baranova, the sorry stories of the young people in a Central point the same. You all have experienced that at home years of abuse, not necessarily sexually, but mentally. The parents brought them hardly any appreciation, let alone love. In the meantime slipped to the father or the mother. In some cases, the Kesb is involved. "Many tell us of nasty verbal humiliation from parents, the einbläuten you that you are worthless and never amount to anything would bring," says Baranova. Some of today's synthetic drugs, swallow or sniff coke and almost all of them smoke weed, you understand. "Drugs are nothing more than a painkiller for the soul."

The facade falls in the evening

The inner neglect, you cannot see them, however. On the contrary, Many of the young people make sure, on the outside as not to attract attention, in order to preserve at least a semblance of a normal life, even though you hang out on the street. At Nemo, you can take a shower, there are perfume, Makeup, and even donated brand-name clothing. A few go during the day, to school, or you don't make a training, your environment know that you are homeless. The façade, however, at the latest, in the evening when the Teenagers eat with the Supervisors in the case of Nemo, and talk.

"If you finally, someone listens and takes them seriously, they are very communication need, and then all of your mental problems come to the fore," says Baranova. It was very painful, not only for the victims themselves. "Sometimes I want to be able to the wrong self-image, just delete it that makes you believe that you are a failure and unworthy to live." But Baranova's is not the task to take care of the young people psychologically. Nemo is the primary field and the youth encourage you to get your life back on track. "I always say that Nemo is not the last Station, but the beginning of a restart."

Fresh linen helps

the homeless need to refuel but once of energy and self-confidence. An open ear can help as well as a cozy living room atmosphere, fresh scented bedding, and cups with encouraging sayings. "But we are clearly not a home," says Baranova, even if it is perception of their wards. Therefore it is not to be too comfortable. Admission to Nemo-the house is only at 20 o'clock, after dinner, after Breakfast, all of which must be no later than the outside back.

of Course, the young people are not just hanging in the air. If you wish, is informed of the Kesb. You can be in the same house by social workers advise, and because Nemo is only a Auffangort, look for the employees with accommodation alternatives and, above all, to longer-term solutions. "Sometimes we find a WG or supervised living groups, some in-patient treatment until their mental condition is somewhat stabilized." The stay in the case of Nemo is limited to a maximum of three months, the majority of which remains for several weeks, until a solution emerges.

Stefanie, the introverted high school student that wanted to study languages, remained a few months in the Nemo house. Together with the employees, the then-18-Year-old a WG has found the place and the social assistance applied for, so she could manage her life independently. What became of her, don't know Darja Baranova. She suggests it as a good sign that Stefanie has never been more in the case of Nemo knock on the door.

Shelters for Teens:
Zurich: www.swsieber.ch (Nemo), www.schlupfhuus.ch
Basel: www.notbetten.ch
Bern: www.schlossmatt-bern.ch (NAG)

(editing Tamedia)

Created: 27.12.2018, 18:55 PM