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Men play the game women have to follow the rules

There is a Meme that floated in the past few months through various social media, and this Meme is very interesting, because it's about old-fashioned notions o

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Men play the game women have to follow the rules

There is a Meme that floated in the past few months through various social media, and this Meme is very interesting, because it's about old-fashioned notions of Dating, Sex and love fun, but at the same time a small mourns the passing of little. "First Date Sex", it is said. "Second Date: Meet in daylight. Third Date: each other's childhood traumas tell." Do you mean: Today is first fucked, then met.

similarly, Heike Melzer. She is a sex therapist and one of the many different voices that come in the very balanced and very clever documentation of Constanze Griessler and Franziska Mayr-Keber. With "Like, data, delete, love, and Sex in the Internet age," try to fathom the two filmmakers, such as Online Dating life, Dating and sexuality of people has changed.

myths

the cut On your search Griessler and Mayr meeting-Keber, among other things, a sex therapist, which warns of a übersexualisierten society (those Heike Melzer), a self-proclaimed "date doctor" who advises a woman to cheat a bit in age, Size and weight, and the psychoanalyst Wolfgang Schmidbauer, the diagnosed with chronic uncertainty, given the lack of transparency of possible relations.

So far, all known Fears, observations, and findings for the disruptive force of Online Dating in Particular and the Internet in General. The drags at the beginning, explained and repeated a lot of and decomposed after it quickly is very relevant is that one or other of the myth.

"Dating has always been a business"

The Internet have the romance destroyed, is one of them. Algorithms and love, this would be easy. Nonsense, says this documentary and tells of how it was in the fifties, with the help of sophisticated questionnaires in search of the "Code of love". "Dating has always been a business," says the historian Moira Weigel. It is not only since Tinder people present themselves as "desirable goods". In the supposedly modern and revolutionary world of Online Dating, old social problems and injustices reproduce.

Also in the commercialised world of Dating, there are socially Suspended. "The gap goes on and on," says sex therapist Melzer, "between the Pristine, the supply of virtual worlds and those who tindern through the beds." For a minimum of five percent of men, it is neither a Partner nor a partner, it means at one point. What can happen with these Suspended, shows the Incel movement.

The problems are the same everywhere

At the end of the problems of the Online roles-Dating in the entrenched notions of gender: The men ansozialisierte forced to always have to take the first step, the possible rejection, the anonymity in the network, all of this is fertile ground for abuse, and says Whitney Wolfe, cofounder of Tinder and the CEO of the Dating App, Bumble.

towards the end of the documentary, the historian Weigel is told to be written, such as old-fashioned gender stereotyping in the advice literature. A book with Dating tips for men to wear the title of "The Game" for women, by contrast, "The Rules". Men play the game and women have to follow the rules. The simultaneously comforting and devastating realization of this documentary: Whether online or offline, the problems are everywhere the same.

Like, data delete – love and Sex in the age of the Internet, 3 satellite, 20.15 clock.
(editorial Tamedia)

Created: 13.02.2019, 18:13 PM

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