It is the mothers ' fault – again

"Caroline Hainer on the three tv-documentaries on abused children."

"This is a kulturartikel which is a part of Aftonbladet's opinionsjournalistik."

"During the early spring, tv viewers have been able to take part of three documentaries with the sexually exploited children in the centre. Leaving Neverland (SVT Play), about Michael Jackson's relationships with young boys. We survived R Kelly (SVT Play), about the singer's sexual relations with underage girls, and Abducted in plain sight (Netflix), about the daughter who is kidnapped not one but two times of a family friend. "

"In both the Swedish and the foreign media have a common reaction was: How could mothers allow this to happen?"

"In history have mothers been attributed to all sorts of liability. The early psychology took the view that it was the mother's fault if her son was homosexual, schizophrenic, autistic or nourished a hatred of women. We have a long tradition of blaming mothers, and not at all an equally strong tradition of accusing the fathers. "

"And moraltunga celebrities helps to maintain this. Oprah Winfrey asks Michael Jackson's victims if they have forgiven their mothers at the same time as she with clear body language showing disgust, and thus contributes to a collective guilt."

"That fathers are left out have some explanation. One of the fathers to the Jackson's victims committed suicide. But there are other fathers, to cast the blame on, also in the other dokumentärexemplen. Regardless of which parent skuldsiktet point on however, it is pedofilerna who are the real perpetrators. And in their method included that also involve the parents, to get them to give their consent."

"Experts the world over agree that paedophiles who groomar their victims also groomar their parents. In other words, is the deceiver, pedophile seduces them all. It is, therefore, the perpetrator in the absolute majority of cases is close to the family. No not just the child but also the parents know and trust. Someone you don't suspect, because no parent with self respect would let their child hang out with a monster. "

"this is where it becomes dangerous. We have been so difficult to accept that a perpetrator can see out anyway: as our uncle, our neighbor, as the world's biggest pop star. No wonder that we instead choose to think that something so horrible could never happen to my children because I am a good mother. Bad things happen to only the children of bad mothers."

"The really uncomfortable truth is that the love for our children is not a measure of how well equipped we are against paedophiles. We only when we understand how pedophiles work, something the brave mothers in these documentaries actually can teach us."

"Leaving Neverland (SVT)"

"the World cup, Michael Jackson abused young boys throughout his life. The mean in all cases James Safechuck and Wade Robson, as the in-depth interviews tells the story of a long-term exploitation and betrayal that began as a loving invitation to a ssagoland. "

"We survived R Kelly (SVT)"

"the Documentary in six parts allows several young women tell us about the sexual, mental and physical violence they have suffered, of the r’n’b singer R Kelly, who today stands accused of ten cases of sexual exploitation. "

"Abducted in plain sight (Netflix)"

"Robert Berchtold was nice, well liked in the neighborhood and in the church. He set up for the family and loved by kids. He was a child molester and kidnapper was not obvious. Not even after the first kidnappningsincidenten. Netflix-the documentary shows how a pedophile can be both criminal and be perceived as lovable at the same time."