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It is the father's time in the culture

Jonas Hassen Khemiris lekvärld is yellow and purple and red, all hard surfaces are draped in the foam. Also bollhavet go in carefree colors, so that the ball pool at the play center often does.

It is enough the spacious to accommodate adults, which can ”throw the plastic ball. Download plastic ball. Throw the plastic ball”, like tvåbarnspappan in Khemiris novel ”Pappaklausulen”.

and apply one of the småbarnsårens many repetitive tasks he is thinking that; ”this is dom golden years”. Then, he continues to retrieve the plastic ball, throw the plastic ball, change the diaper, wipe drägel, throw the plastic ball. In between he sends a picture to the children's mother, to show what a great dad he is.

With linguistic precision, low-key humor and almost manic attention to detail to carve Jonas Hassen Khemiri up the drama in the small life. But also the underlying, sore conflicts in a family. The father in the bollhavet, in the book called the son, who is a father, has grown up with an absent father. He is driven by a desire to renegotiate family relationships and, with them, pappaklausulen as such.

" When I wrote this book, I noticed how much drama is in everyday life. Initially, I thought of a play center that is the very definition of something that it is not possible to find the drama in, but ultimately it is about finding meaning in his life. Even playland can accommodate issues of life and death, guilt and shame. The parent in the bollhavet feel a need to show off how good he is. The least adults that is available is to seek confirmation from others that you are worth something, " says Jonas Hassen Khemiri and adds;

– My experience is that those who grow up with absent parents often want to show others that they have broken the pattern. You put up a picture where you are out with the kids in the blueberry bushes, to signal; so here currently I'm. The son in the book to have a round of applause when he is doing something that his girlfriend and mother makes entirely natural. He wants to have a round of applause from the children that he remembered wetwipes.

Jonas Hassen Khemiri. Photo: Eva Tedesjö

”Pappaklausulen” is Khemiris fifth novel, and also his most personal. Many of the events in the book draws inspiration from his own life. There is a grandfather who walks around with guilt over having caused his daughter's downfall and a sister who has lost contact with his son.

Read more: Jonas Thente reviewing ”Pappaklausulen”

the Language is straighter, ”less firework-igt”, as he himself says.

" I've been waiting your whole life to write this book, and while I have been terrified to write it and release it out in the world. There are so many things in it that I felt ashamed for, and I have thought that if I write them down, the world will explode. But a cool thing to still choose to do it is that the world is left. If you write down something you are afraid of and then comes out on the other hand, it creates, in the long run, a dizzying sense of freedom.

in the literature, and the contemporary book edition is no exception. However, what stands out is that several of them deal with fatherhood specifically, often through a dad's eyes.

Here are the fathers who are failing and sons who try to resist, as in ”Pappaklausulen”, here are fathers who go to their inner room and freezes when treåringen climb (and destroy) a Yayoi Kusama installation at the museum of Modern art, which in Andrev Walden krönikesamling ”Your little darkness in the light”. As well as a willingness to break the descending small livslögnerna as the ”hollowing out tree trunks” and ”grow into lifestyles” because men often ”sought the confirmation outward and not looking inward”, as in the Christian Unges contribution to the anthology ”To my son”. After 2017, the annual ”Letter to my daughter”, where 13 women wrote to their daughters, now it's the fathers ' turn to portray their experiences.

Augustin Erba. Photo: Jessica Gow/TT

Pappaskildringarna are also available in the world of pop music. On the album ”Business,” sings Jonas Lundqvist on the agony in every other week-the life, Love Antell on slitningarna between the ideals and the (family)life, the French Trio on parenting and abuse, Vasas Flora and Fauna of the ceremonies in an infant baptism. While Mattias Alkberg gives its ' the Weekend again”, a ballad about the anxiety for a child-free weekend, life in the theatrical attire of the autumn show ”All the worst”.

Kodjo Akolor on the Scalateaterns scene in enmansföreställningen ”I, dad?”.

the Author Augustin Erba, who is also the editor of the anthology ”To my son”, believe that the increase in the proportion of the depictions of this, written by men, is because more and more dads are at home with their children.

" I'm guessing it's the more common parental leave of fathers who are now starting to appear in the literature. Even if we writers often say that we find in so much of the literature on their own experiences. Men have historically written a number of krigsskildringar because many men have experienced war. Other men have written about the pursuit of women, booze and adventure. But the more men that establishes a deep relationship with their children, the more such relationships we will probably get to see depicted in books written by men, " says Augustin Erba, who hope to ”To my son” should open up for more in-depth conversations in everyday life.

" I think we talk too seldom with each other on life's essentials. Especially in a föräldrarelation I am afraid to vardagspratet it is possible to miss the deep talks, to the everyday trudge on, " says Erba.

note that the seemingly insignificant conversations often include the burning, unspoken conflicts anyway.

– It is difficult for the members of a family to sit at a coffeehouse and say: ”Why did you not care about me, why did you love me not in the right way?” The son and the father in the ”Pappaklausulen” fights often when they break, and then about who should pay. The father sees it as an honor that the son shall pay for his coffee because it shows how well things have gone for him in life. When they are arguing about the coffee, that type cost 25 bucks, fighting the really about why the father has not taken care of the son. In everyday life it doesn truly existential, " says Khemiri.

author and journalist, explores the stresses of everyday life. In krönikesamlingen ”Your little darkness in the light” is a step between children's legobyggen and the conditions for existence or the universe as such is never far. Common to several of his chronicles is that they are about harboring feelings in impossible föräldrasituationer, something he himself explains that there are higher demands on today's parents than previous generations.

Andrev Walden. Photo: Henric Lindsten/Polaris

For just a hundred years ago, an evolutionary moment, considered child labour and was often harder than today, we are bringing up dogs. I'm glad I get to live and reproduce me on this side of the brytningstiden in the view of the children but you have to remember that it is not happened anything evolutionary with the mothers and fathers of a hundred years. We are the same animals now as then, but we shall manage the new data. Apart from that, most of us don't have to see our children die periodically has parenting become much more difficult, "says Walden, adding:

" My stepfather beat me for it was easy. I annexed me. His father beat him because it was easy. He annexed. We belong to the first generations that does not make it easy for us. There we are right but it would be strange if we not screaming on the inside or cried in the shower sometimes and it is awkward. So where as the civilization often are.

”Mansfällan – can Andrev get a friend?”, a documentary about male loneliness. A solitude, for his own part, arisen because both family time as absolute time for yourself a priority before friendship. He wants to contribute to an open conversation about men, masculinity and parenthood, without ideological or identitetspolitiska overtones.

– It would be fine with a relatively apolitical conversation about the men in the space between the fittmössor and lobsters. A call without response, maybe. It may prove that men can think for themselves.

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