Girlfriend by decision of the youth remained living - Joonaksesta became the father of 20-year-old

Joonas is a bitter ex-girlfriend. He loved his children. PASI LEINO

jonah of the turbulent relationship between the girl friend had lasted over a year. The couple had already divorced when the girl friend reported that prevention has failed and told me she was pregnant.

- What happens now, whether there was life here, I think. Me feel, you can't leave it alone. We got back together.

Abortion was a speech, but Joonas experience, that he has no right to suggest abortion when it comes to another person's body. Girlfriend announced that intends to keep the child.

pregnant

a couple of years after the girlfriend, which had become Jonah's spouse and the child's mother, told me that I had gotten pregnant, because you know that Jonah then leave him.

He told that need of the child, to keep me in a relationship. I felt so betrayed and I wonder, was it the right thing. Her when she got pregnant we were both getting started just adult life. I know that his childhood was difficult and I had been to him always a savior. The relationship was some kind of therapy relationship.

Joonas continue, however, the couple's relationship, even though it was difficult. Girlfriend wanted to decide everything.

I didn't get, for example, to get angry about things. He also wanted to dictate what I do.

the Couple began waiting together with another child, but the pregnancy Joonas decided to divorce.

- I agreed quietly, my girlfriend will happen, until I had enough. He got mad at me about something, what often happens, and I said I didn't come back. I would have liked to, that the child would have had an intact home, but the relationship wasn't love, didn't we have one happy.

the father of the weaker rights?

Two under school age children Jonah is happy. Her relationship to children has always been close. Children live in approximately half of both parents. Living arrangements and Jonah, and ex-girlfriend got the contract in court.

I Always thought that father is difficult, and the kids are not interested in a father, but it seems to me, that the father's rights are minimal the mother's rights compared to.

Jonah is a bitter fact that the girl friend was able to decide his paternity of her, but also recognizes their contribution.

I also let her decide a lot of my life, when I began to live a family life with him. I now have two wonderful children, and my bitterness against children. Children are innocent, and children need to know what the mother and father between, especially now.

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Joonas experience, he hasn't lived youth.

- Before the children was a lot more casual and laugh a little more. I had to grow up in a short time so much.

Friends, the children being with their mother, Joonas experience of getting out of fatherhood and responsibility.

- When I'm with my friends, the responsibility disappears momentarily. Of course, I'll still be a father and take responsibility immediately, if I need to.

jonah, the guy you are childless young men. Joonas can tell them things, but understand you guys really, is another question.

for joonas has been a new girlfriend after he has divorced his children's mother, but mostly he's been single.

- my Package is not probably the most attractive women your age.

currently, Joonas experience, you don't want more children.

oh, I'm still young.

jonah, the name has been changed to protect privacy. The story is originally published in April 2018.

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