Raising a child on their own can be a very tiring experience for a single parent. The stress associated with a potential divorce, separation agreements, child’s custody, etc. can take a toll on anyone, and parents need to cope up with the constant pressure and anxiety on a daily basis. Some of the challenges you may face as a single parent may include having the sole responsibility of taking care of your child, being emotionally present at all times, disciplining your child and dealing with problems or day-to-day conduct of their academics. Single parents also typically find themselves struggling financially and isolating themselves socially. They also find themselves emotionally exhausted due to having to play the role of being a mother and father both to their child.
Listed below are a few tips that would help single parents go through the journey of raising their child:
1. Create a fixed routine
Since you are solely responsible for raising your child, you need to ensure that you have ample time during the day to cater to all of their and your own needs as well. You should create a fixed routine for yourself and for your child, which would ensure that all their work gets done during the day and that they get a sense of discipline instilled in them. Their meals, bedtimes, study time and playtime should be assigned during the day, and you should ensure you are available for your child during the day.
2. Look for child care options
If you can afford to, try to find reliable child care options for your child. A qualified caregiver is preferred who has previous experience in babysitting children similar to age in your child. However, if you cannot afford professional childcare, look for options within your workspace as many businesses offer childcare services during the day for their employees. If that isn’t feasible either, look for friends and family who you can count on.
3. Express your love
Children who are raised by single parents often feel guilty and responsible for their parents’ divorce. They also often feel like they are being a burden on their parent. To avoid this from happening, you should constantly make your child feel loved, and let them know that your divorce was not their fault in the slightest. Your child doesn’t have to feel guilty about whatever went wrong between you and your partner, and hence you may need to constantly make your child feel loved and valued.
4. Take care of yourself
Raising a child on your own can drain you physically and mentally both. Hence, you should make sure that you take care of yourself and invest in your mental peace. This is important because if you cannot take care of yourself, it is highly doubtful that you would be able to take care of your child. Enjoy extracurricular activities with your friends and give yourself a timeout on a regular basis. You should also consider hanging out with the parents of your child’s friends and conduct playdates which would be an excellent way for you and your child to interact socially.