Female orgasms are like laughter: Comedians may be funny, but we don't "laugh" with them. If the circumstances feel right, we laugh from within ourselves. Consider focusing on what allows her to have an orgasm rather than trying to "give" her one. The following suggestions can help:
Do not strive for perfect timing. There is always orgasm during intercourse on television, movies, and pornography. That's just fantasy. The majority of women do not have consistent orgasmic experiences during sexual activity. The rest of them require clitoris stimulation to achieve orgasm.
An orgasm rarely results from prolonged intercourse, even when the clitoral stimulation is adequate. You can assist most women by using your hand, tongue, or vibrator.
Get your hands all over her. In the body, every square inch is a sensual playground, from the scalp to the soles of the feet. However, most men ignore the rest of it. Be sure to touch every inch of her body. During sex, you receive a whole-body massage that eventually includes your genital area. Women (and men) can experience orgasms when they undergo a whole-body massage. Be gentle when you massage her. Apply massage lotion (found in bath and body shops). The scalp, ears, face, neck, feet, and — who would have thought? — Even the feet can feel surprisingly erotic—especially the back of the knees.
Dude, don't forget to apply lube. Lubricant increases women's (and men's) erotically sensitive genitals in seconds, helping them experience orgasms. In addition, women experiencing postmenopausal dryness may find it uncomfortable to have sex without using a lubricant (be it saliva or an ointment purchased from a pharmacy).
Squeeze lubricant over genitals, but do not squirt directly on them; the sensation may be harsh. To warm it, squeeze some of it into your hand, and then rub it with your fingertips. Pharmacies carry lubricants next to condoms, logically.
Break out of that rut! If you and your partner are on a romantic getaway, do you notice that sex feels more stimulating? It is because you have broken the routine. Behind this, if you're curious about the science, dopamine is a neurotransmitter that governs arousal. As dopamine levels rise, so do arousal levels, and the chances of an orgasm increase.
Take a best clit sucker to bed with you. Although I just went to the extreme, some women will still struggle with orgasm even if they follow all the tips above and use a vibrator for intense stimulation. Almost one-third of American women own a vibrating device, but only a tiny percentage of couples use it during sex. Certain men are afraid of being replaced by power tools - have power tools returned carpenters? Not at all; they do the job more efficiently. Sex toys cannot kiss and cuddle, make a woman laugh, or tell her, "I love you." They can only do one thing, and some women need just that one thing to get an orgasm. Let her use the vibrator by holding her close.
In a nutshell: Do not try to induce orgasm in your partner. The man's role in a loving relationship is to engender an erotic environment that is comfortable and relaxed and sufficiently enticing to allow the woman to let go in multiple ways.