As a woman, keeping your last name after marriage is a statement. Women like Elke Büdenbender (Steinmeier) or Britta Ernst (Scholz) can thus distinguish themselves from the work of their husbands. With world stars like the American singer and actress Jennifer Lopez, this is like a business decision.
The 53-year-old has married her ex-boyfriend Ben Affleck, also a brand actor, director and producer. Their love gives hope in the dreary year 2022 with all its crises. And Jennifer Lopez has taken her husband's last name. "My official name will be Ms. Affleck because we are connected," she revealed to Vogue.
“We are husband and wife. I'm proud of that. It still transports tradition and romance to me.” And then she said a line that reminded me of Julia Roberts in the film Notting Hill, where she says to Hugh Grant: “I'm just a girl standing in front of a boy and asks him to love it." Mrs. Affleck said, "Maybe I'm just that kind of girl."
In the 90s, the author also dreamed of a life like in a romantic comedy. And don't give up hope.
The birth name is an "expression of individuality and identity", says the Federal Constitutional Court. So Jennifer Lopez has given up a bit of both, because she is now officially called Affleck, like her husband. Because she thinks it's "romantic".
Yes, married couples used to have the same name – namely that of the man, because the law provided for it, in Germany that was the case until 1976. Until 1977, women also had to ask their husbands if they were allowed to work. No couple wants to follow this tradition anymore.
Only when it comes to married names are we still stuck in the 1970s, today 75 percent of women decide on the man's name. Some, like Jennifer Lopez, see it as a sign of connection. But does it have to show up in the passport of all things? And does Ben Affleck feel less connected for keeping his name?
So the supposed romance evaporates until only one sad circumstance remains: too many independent women are convinced that they have to give up something of themselves in marriage. This is nonsense – for men too, by the way.
As she was writing, the author heard Marianne Rosenberg: "It belongs to me like my name on the door".