Youtube's tutorial title is "Super easy square root." We thought, "Yes, this video might help us." Our 12-year old daughter has three square root problems tomorrow. Although we are exhausted at work, we feel that we must help our daughter. This is what mothers, dads, and involved adults do.
Although it is hard to remember how to solve a square root after so many years of not doing it, this tutorial will help. Tomorrow will be her teacher's approval. Our daughter will be more happy and will have a bright future academically.
We should think more deeply about the situation before we give the play. Although it may seem counterintuitive, it may be the best thing to help our daughter with her performance and motivation.
Direct parental assistance with homework seems counterproductive, according to research. Particularly, homework control and verification is associated with lower academic performance.
Doing their homework independently helps young people learn how to plan and manage their time. They feel like they are the architects for their success, feel more independent and responsible, which is crucial to their motivation and ability to continue doing their homework.
However, this does not mean we as fathers or mothers have to be passive. There are many ways to get involved with your children's education and make a difference in their learning.
Reality is largely perceived by children through their parents' eyes. Children whose parents believe they are capable of succeeding are more likely to be successful.
If my mother believes that I will learn how to do square roots successfully, even though I don't know where to begin, I will continue trying because she believes that it means I can do it.
Expectations should be directed towards mastering new skills and knowledge and not grades. Learning something new is success, not getting a grade.
Other beliefs and attitudes of adults or parents can also influence children's motivation and performance. For example, their communication style or beliefs that they transmit through their actions.
The father who reads a book to his son in front of him is telling him that reading is part and parcel of life.
Fathers and mothers who are passionate about learning, culture, and science pass on to their children the importance of learning.
Research has also shown that children who are less motivated to learn and have lower academic achievement than their parents.
Talking to our children about their learning and achievements helps them reflect and values what they have done. We can communicate with our children about their resistances and difficulties with teachers and classmates to improve their self-confidence.
However, if communication is based on grades, deadlines, or comparisons with other kids, then their motivation and performance are more likely to suffer.
It is possible to help our daughters get square roots without even having to talk about square roots.
Let's encourage them to create a safe environment for their research.
Let's ensure they have everything they need and aren't distracted by things that could distract them. Let's encourage them to think about what they need to do their homework, and then to reflect on the things that help or hinder them in doing homework.
Learning is enriching and meaningful when children show interest in what they see in class. Let's not try to assess what our children know. Let's just be open-minded and let them learn together.
We can read stories together before they turn 6 years old. This is not a pressured reading activity. It's more of a play space about reading that encourages them.
We can all go together to the museum with our children if they are learning about dinosaurs in primary school.
We can encourage discussion about the world in adolescence and what people study.
It is important to not judge them, but to allow them to debate or counter. Even if we don't agree with their ideas and opinions, evolution is a process of reflection, not imposition.
There may be persistent problems with homework for some children. First, you need to determine if there are any cognitive or psychological limitations. Is it too challenging for the child's developmental stage? Is the learning environment appropriate?
It is important that we talk to our children to answer these questions without judgment or scolding. Instead, let's show kindness, calmness, understanding, and a helpful attitude. The second step is to talk with your teachers.
Sometimes it is necessary to consult a psychologist or an educational psychologist. They can assess our needs and help us decide how to proceed. It is much easier to find the cause.
This article was published in "The Conversation".