play The world, in the Anja Schärs history, is far away. What you reported, a matter of concern. Children's farmer's family in the '60s and early' 70s. Long work days, hardly any machines, little income. Parents that curse, scold and beat. Children who toil in the yard and field. What you feel, think, want, and nobody asks for it. No one listens to you. Children without Childhood.
Everything is far away? "Oh," says Annelies Münch, who knows Anja Schärs history. Münch has a professional life for children, as a social pedagogue, head of a day home, a University lecturer and a children's lobbyist. She has seen into many families and observed today, such as, for example, in urban families, many parents see their child as a "project". And Woe, the expectations are not met. "Then they respond with pressure, punishment, humiliation, and withdrawal of love."
so, as Anja experienced warping as a child. In their recently published memoirs, the children's lobby Switzerland recognizes a "Textbook on children's rights".
psychological terror, physical violence
Many years after the traumatic childhood experiences living in Sweden aunt said to her: "Here I would have shown your father. With you in Switzerland, you could just do nothing." Anja warping cried for a long time, as she hears the. Many need to know what is going on in the family, in the you 1954. The three neighboring families in a hamlet in the Zurich Oberland. The people from the leisure club, which has a building. The rich family from the city uses the former Spa house in the hamlet as a weekend house. The man who picks up the milk. The teacher, the veterinarian, the doctor. How sad and frightened the children are, that is obvious. But no one is responding.
The oldest brother, is set by the father under "tremendous pressure", says Anja warping in your book. An older sister is crying often, when falling Asleep, another at the table, if she does homework in the back of the hysterically screaming mother. The severely disabled brother who dies at the age of 14, says the grandmother: "What is it lucky that you're paralyzed. So you can at least you in peace." Constantly, the parents drive the children to work in the yard, the slightest mishap to the showers. Psychological terror, physical violence, arbitrary.
Anja archipelago has as a child, nightmares. It beats in the night with the fists against the wall until the fingers are all banged up.
Anja hits of the night with the fists against the wall until the fingers are all banged up.
praise, it never gives up, no matter how much the children, it is never enough. The father can't bear to see the children happy. The mother allows himself no rest, and think that the children would have no right to it. Anja and her siblings may not to school, time for Play is left to them. What you experience outside the small world of the yard, not interested in the parents. The father and mother of tails events all School.
Still, dare the children to believe in luck. Although do you know how risky it is. The new year has started peacefully, forget Anja Schär never: "Eh, Papa, was now a beautiful evening." – "Yes, he would have been without you, but still beautiful." They are rare, the "Islands of warmth", as Anja archipelago called the good moments of their Childhood. Secure she feels with the women of a secluded courtyard that will take you to the funfair. A "ray of Sunshine" to the lives of her "courage in power". The longing for love takes on a bitter forms: As the Boy of the rich family is drowning from the city in the swimming pool and Anja Schär hear the "incessant cries of" his mother, "like something" to this scream. "You can feel this mother must have loved your child."
A picture of the parents she endured not
Tortured soul, the broken body. The pain in the knee and left thigh has been burning for over a year. Behind, but from the parents, you will not be protected, although the teacher speaks them into the Conscience. In the school, in the village and on the farm, for all to see, that you can barely walk. "Please, please help me", she thinks, dares utter the words. Only when you collapse in front of the Postman the left leg, can the mother not be more different, and takes you to the doctor.
at Least for the physical side of the tragedy, there is now a diagnosis. The Exhaustion due to hard physical work has exacerbated their problems with the hips. It is followed by months in the hospital and rest home is the best time in your young life. After the first surgery, you can feel the hands of a nurse on the cheeks, "an intense, unfamiliar feeling". She learns in the hospital for a "fairer and more peaceful world". On the bedside table with other children and a photo of the family. Next to her is a picture of a father and a mother, she wouldn't have to endure.
"It pushes you to the ground"
Anja Schär, today, 64, pauses in conversation, kneading the fingers and the eyes in the room to Hiking. What made the Childhood with her? "You're no one. It pushes you to the ground and tramples on you." Between each formulation, a few seconds of silence: "not a development permit" – "destruction of the personality" – the "no build-up of self-value" – "uncertainty". And so we come, then, as a "mini voice" in the society, did not know, how other people look in the eye, where with the hands, what to talk about. Anja warping referred to as "seriously injured".
37 you can rename. From Anna, Anja. She wants to forget what happened to Anna, she wants to be less vulnerable, as this girl, in order to cope with life. Once more years pass. Now, it urges you to approach Anna again and to write about them, to "the pressure in the head" to get rid of. "For me, the first 20 years of my life are missing. My Childhood was a Trauma. Nevertheless, it has given me."
at the Time, as it is as a thirteen-year-old in the hospital, she hears on the Radio that the court be considered judgments of the Federal Supreme court. Sometimes even further, to the European court of human rights in Strasbourg. Even then, she thinks: And children? You also have rights? Today, she says decidedly: "children's rights are human rights, they shall also apply in the family." Every child is entitled to encouragement and confirmation, the only way it could develop. Around the family to pull a fence high, which shouldn't be. the
"fatal to children"
still, some are calling for today. Behind the criticism of the Kesb the idea is common: In the family, the neighbor has to sniff and to control the civil servants nothing. All the Power and responsibility of the family! "For God's sake, no," says Anja warping. "How blind you must be to believe that all parents are loving?" She had been lost as a child "" because no one intervened and helped. "The municipal authorities have failed." Your parents would have desperately needed the help. The yard, all the work a severely disabled child: It is the responsibility of the society and the state, overburdened parents and their children is not let alone.
"look the other way is fatal for children", in children's law expert Annelies Münch the "strongest message" by Anja Schärs history. But it also says: Look, Yes, but please properly. Münch is involved in training for the implementation of children's rights and has to do also with employees of the Kesb. She was concerned about the "often bureaucratic spirit" of the authority. For this difficult work, there is a need "sense, and decency" in dealing with the concerned parents. "Even people who do not behave optimally, deserve respect."
Anja warping itself has been looking the other way in your life never. Many years ago, she has founded a family of my own and two children of my own and two foster children moved on. She has done everything possible to not allow them what they had: a carefree Childhood.
Today, after many operations, she has artificial joints in the hips. The Go should work now, quite normal. But your steps are still uncertain. To not go because she is used to normal.
for Years, every step ached, a reminder of Childhood and the parents who are now deceased. In her childhood fantasies, she wanted to strangle the parents so that they finally fall silent.
you are broken you never. "Because of me, not because of you." The mother was in the nursing home, as Anja tried warping to talk with her about the childhood trauma. The mother did not understand what she was talking about.
at Christmas, she visited the parents home on the farm. It was only possible because you took drugs.
Anja Schär: Anna wants to live, publishing Easy to read, Bern, 2018. (editor-in-Tamedia)
Created: 18.12.2018, 17:50 PM