How can you make your girlfriend happy and boost your relationship?
You can choose the big picture, where you buy a surprisetur for a seaside hotel without the kids, but with all expenses paid.
You can also go in a completely different direction, which will not only serve as a patch like the above. Small, but very significant things that will make your relationship better in both the short and the long term.
According to the couple Suzie and James Pawelski, who specialize in positive psychologist (which in this context should not be the ones to load), believe that relationships should be watered regularly in order to flourish. And here are the few great works are not essential - it is in the small hverdagsdetaljer, the gold is stored.
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You know certainly this scenario from the everyday life: Your boyfriend comes home from work and asks you something or tells him important things from the job. You are småstresset or just preoccupied by your own thoughts. So you are looking button up and responds with a casually, quickly ‘reach', or ‘I don't know’, or ‘why did you do that?!’
It is not an outright afklaskning, but your partner interprets it as a signal that he should withdraw. When it often happens through a relationship, it will tear away at the relationship foundation.
What should you do when your girlfriend is trying to talk to you? Instead of responding instinctively and emotionally, as in the above example, you should respond rationally.
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You deliberately choose to take the time to actively listen to your girlfriend. Are you stressed and/or really busy doing something else, pulling you just a deep breath a couple of times and say calmly to your boyfriend that you really would like to speak with him, but preferably a little later, when you can give him your full attention.
If you are on a daily basis actively listen and respond and not just react instinctively, both you and your girlfriend soon discover how the presence and the attention is growing. Your partner will feel seen and heard and not rejected, when you just take a quick break, think about what happens, and then respond to it.
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the Thing number two on this list of small things you can do here and now, and that will improve your relationship both now and fremdadrettet, is really simple.
Use your sms information and not communication.
If you stick to the ‘we can be seen at 19, tax’ - and keeps you from the, ‘you make me mega stressed out, when you come too late, it's fucking disrespectful’, you make sure that the difficult conversations (and the not so difficult) will be taken IRL, where all of the small nuances can come up with.
the Online conversations lack the fundamental information such as tone of voice, body language, eye contact and the opportunity nuanceringer - like analog communication just.
Kiss & love - 2. nov. 2017 - at. 22:46 Therefore argue In always on the same
The third thing, you and your partner can do, is a little more complicated. Here you should both think over the way, In looking at the conflicts.
the Boyfriend is not an extension of yourself. It is quite natural that they think and believe something else. You must not blame your partner to feel or think anything else than you - it comes nothing good out of in length.
Kiss & love - 28. nov. 2019 - at. 23:26 This short sentence can take the sting out of all the bickering and save your relationship
the Disagreements threaten not the relationship as such. One should not divorce, even if you quarrel. That your girlfriend disagrees with you is not an expression of the fact that he does not love you and care for you.
Recognize that your girlfriend has other opinions than you - even if you disagree. Give expression to your boyfriend's thoughts, attitudes and feelings subjectively makes sense, just like your.
This means that you eventually will learn your partner's better to know when you truly accept that your partner's views are completely valid in his or her own perspective.
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