I closed my eyes and wanted to die

He played football, when they came to get him, on a Sunny Monday morning in April 2016. The headmistress came into the gym class, and was called Jan (Name changed), to accompany you to your office. The ten year old wondered what he had done wrong, while he climbed with her up the stairs. In the office, a red-haired woman and two men awaited him, he had never seen before. The Redhead said: "We have decided that you are no longer on your mother's life." "I closed my eyes and wanted to die," recalls Jan at the Moment, because his Childhood was over.

Today, he is 13, a handsome, intelligent Boy. He speaks clearly and focus on what he has been through, but remains reserved with Strangers. And with good reason. Three police officers, he was discharged that Morning in April, on the Playground, in front of the eyes of his frightened classmates. Without knowing what was going on and where he was would be done. Safe in The life he had known before, was over.

"Jan seems to not completely to its home placement, engage."Daniel Gutschner, expert and head of the Institute

the Background for his arrest for years of simmering custody dispute between his parents. Because the parties have not arrived at the most contentious issues to reach an agreement, has given an opinion in order, as usual in such cases. The Wake of the controversial Berner, specialist psychologist and Director of the Institute Daniel Gutschner came. He is known for pushing the recommendations in custody disputes, and for a very rough dealing with some clients. Several complaints against him are, therefore, the Association of Psychologists FSP pending, due to incorrect billing, he is already condemned.

the thing with The "child welfare"

He recommended for Jan a home placement as a kind of shock therapy, is to be found in the files. And shock it was missing. Previously, Jan had led a regular life, to be a musical instrument, practiced, exercised regularly, or with friends to skate taken. Now he was alone; out of his familiar environment, to be comrades first, without contact with his school, trust in people, or parents. Him was not allowed his Hobbies. "It makes me really sad and angry when I think about it," says Jan. "The judge and the assessors are criminals", he held his feelings in writing.

Jan's parents got married in 2005 and separated in 2010. You, then a high school student, got the care for the four-year-old, and he is a entrepreneur, a regular visiting rights. This worked poorly. In order to process the difficult time, got Jan a therapist, when he was to home, placement in a treatment – to him, the judge from any further contact to your ban and you by a "neutral" therapist replaced. The father was allowed to see his son, only accompanied, while he fought back. The mother, in turn, resented any unaccompanied contact. The son responded insecure and anxious. For years, the parents struggled to have the child.

With the change of system to the child and adult protection authorities (Kesb) in the year 2013 received Jan a new assistance. This should enforce the visitation rights of the father, and came to the conclusion that the mother is manipulating the child, it would alienate the father intentionally. The dysfunctional father-son relationship had to be and Jan to the father fed saved. If necessary, with violence. The judge turned expert Gutschner. Prompt the reviewers provided this basis for the instruction.

drawings from Jans children days.

foreign placements, experts agree, are an extreme measure and is only justified if the Child is in acute danger: through neglect, physical or sexual abuse or severe addiction problems of the parents. But a Child is a malleable concept, at least in the hands of Daniel Gutschner. The "Basler Zeitung" reported in March about a similar case, in the Gutschner recommended to put a nine year old girl into the home, but the court of appeals stopped the project. Because home instruction is fundamentally traumatic, even for kids who grow up in a bad situation.

Jan was at the time of his arrest happy, popular teachers, and classmates, gifted in his Hobbies. The reviewers of this child is a spiritual Need of the child, the to extreme measures course conditions-designed. Although mother and son seemed to maintain a loving and cordial dealings with each other, and Jan show "to the outside world a healthy, discreet and impeccable behaviour". Nevertheless, one can assume "an acute risk for a healthy personality development, and thus a child is at risk," said in the report.

in The Morning, when Jan to the home was transferred, his mother, Julia (Name changed), to the Board home Ironing. It rang, in front of the door three police officers and a lawyer were. "Has something happened?", she asked. She was informed that Jan is now well and that he will henceforth live in the home, you should pack its things and documents. She wasn't allowed to call him or to visit. You should wait for further notification. You received a list of psychologists that you could turn to if she bad now. It should take almost two years until she was allowed to see her son unaccompanied.

"Have you apologized?"

Like every child of Divorce has been exposed to Jan at the time of his parents ' separation conflict. In a but he was always clear: He wanted to live with her mother. He was willing to see the father, if it is asked of him, his home was in the mother. That said and Jan wrote over the years, constant, in letters to the judge, the counsel, psychologists, and home supervisors. Also to the reviewer. This told Jan, specialists know better what works for him the Best. Also Jans therapist, where he was for four years in treatment, was by all means to save him, the home instruction. But the judge decided otherwise.

After a year of a foreign placement for a second opinion Gutschner has been commissioned, and the Parties were in the spring of 2017, once again, talking up messenger. Mother Julia has bad memories of this conversation. Gutschner asked you, "if you've apologized, actually, in the case of Jan, since you have to blame for his arrest," according to the opinion. Julia replied that rather he had to apologize to Jan, and asked him if he had ever experienced such an arrest. The reviewer said, it is only opinion would be answered relevant questions. In this second interview, it came to a head, as Julia, the main thing noticed: ", all deserve on this case." Gutschner was loud, grabbed her by the Arm and threw them out of his Institute.

In the opinion stands, the now eleven-year-old Jan had settled in well, act adapted to, bring the school benefits, but also powerless, and angry about his Situation. He outer the desire to go home, to mother, to return.

Jans note from the time of the prescribed separation from his mother.

from that of the reviewer closes: "Jan seems to not completely to its home placement, engage." To blame the mother, who attempts to manipulate him to be. Advice and assistance also Jans return depends on "whether Jan a positive relationship with the father? in its entirety," as the counsel writes, and whether the parents would be able "to control their negative feelings." Jan lost, for the "negative emotions" of his parents.

Wait for further notice

But it bad. The therapists and supervisors noted that he was charged to "increasingly desperate", outer even thoughts of suicide. Now the judge had a View. After 18 months in the home, Jan was placed in September 2017 with the father. The mother received a supervised visitation rights.

In comparison to home it was a progress, to live with the father, says Jan. But he is not, often, was to him boring: "most of the time I went in my room, gambled on the phone and ass." After a month of haute of the now twelve-year-old for the first Time. A dramatic Situation, no one knew where he was, until he reported himself alive and well in the mother. Then he started Friday from school to go directly to the mother instead of the father.

assistance, family accompaniment, judges, bombed mother and son, with the Mails, he must return to the father. He did, however, wrote to the authorities: "I take my life in my own hands.?" He should be on a Sunday in March of this year, back to the father, he fled to the mother. There is a family companion, sought him out, threatened him with the police. But the Boy no longer had force. Now Jan lives with the mother, and waits for further notification. Today he is thirteen years old. (Editorial Tamedia)

Created: 17.05.2019, 20:52 PM