"'We were sitting in the tub – then he took a stranglehold about my neck”"
"They were ashamed, did not dare to tell the surroundings but in the end they took themselves out of the destructive relationship."
"Now tell four well-known women about how they are mistreated physically and mentally."
"– For me it was difficult to understand that stranglehold and that he threw me into the wall was physical abuse, " says actress Ellen Bergström. "
"When the actor Anja Lundqvist, 47, was in his 20s she met a guy that she was charmed by directly. He was polite, nice, courteous. "
"– He took care of me in a way that no one had done in the past, I was very charmed."
"They moved in together after three months. There were warning signs, and the jealousy against actors she worked with and she was isolated from her friends, they were whores, according to him. "
"– guy friends went away directly, it was cross-examination every time I met someone. Rather than tell anyone so I kept it to myself, I wanted everyone to believe that he was fucking great. I ended up meeting my guy friends, then I stopped because I hit my girlfriends. "
"It went so far that she put into the performances and the la skådiskarriären, his passion, on the shelf. She didn't bother with the constant korsförhören and anger from him. "
"– It was very much about to do not fail to the outside. He had hjärntvättat me to believe that I was worthless. I can't explain how it happened, but I felt that I wanted to give up, nobody was allowed to notice something. "
"He threatened violence against the other but never struck her. A new year's eve barked out her order that she doesn't have a toothbrush at him when they would spend the night with her mother. "
"– He took polisgrepp on my arm, we were at the Medborgarplatsen square – there was nobody who came forward and said something. A week later we sat in the tub – then he took a stranglehold on my neck and pressed my head into the tile. Then I thought – now I have to go. "
"She filed never. The two went on in new relationships. "
" I had wished that I knew what I know today, that one can notify that sort of thing. I had wished that we were more collective then as I hope and believe that young girls do today. "
"Every time Ellen Bergström, 29, hears that the guy she was with has got a new girl so she calls and tells what happened to her. She has common friends with her ex-boyfriend who still do not believe in her. "
" I talked with two of his ex and heard that they also become vulnerable. I do not want more people to be exposed to him. As soon as he obtain the gf so if I call, it is what I can do. I had never in my wildest dreams imagined that when I met him, it's not visible on the outside. So it is very difficult to be believed."
"It took a long time before Ellen Bergström understood that it was actually assault it was all about."
" I thought assault was a slap in the face, a fist. For me it was difficult to understand that stranglehold and that he threw me into a wall was abuse. "
"the Relationship continued even after she's been exposed."
"– He had aggressive tendencies but then it was mostly taunts and jealousy, only after a year it became physical. After we finished, I went back to him again six months later, I felt that I was still in his grip. "
"She found ways to rationalize his actions. When she told me how it really low to surprise people. "
"– Reactions from the people in my neighborhood when they got out of it was: ”but god, you who are so strong, it was thought not about you?” "
"Mediaprofilen Amelia Adamo, 72, beaten by a man who she lived with when she was young. The relationship began with love but turned into physical violence. The battles could come at any time. When he pulled the knife towards her, she left him to the end. "
" ashamed, but there was something between the two of us – there were no children, I was very young."
"Then it was unthinkable for her to seek help somewhere. Had it been in the day of hope, she thought differently."
" the Idea that I would go anywhere with this didnít bother me at all. This was not something that anyone else knew. The solution is always to walk, if you as an adult woman, it, in my situation it was the only choice I had. "
"the Politician Gudrun Schyman, 70, was beaten in a previous marriage. Over the years she has both written and talked openly about how she was beaten and how the relationship she lived in then was aggressive. "
"– I did not go anywhere, and notified. So it looked then, then the people talked very less about it, " says Gudrun Schyman."
"For her, it was important to tell in order to get others to dare to talk about it and highlight that it is not about individual women. "
"– this is a huge social problem, we can't believe that it is individual women who happen to hurt at the individual occasions. It is still being processed as if it were a question on an individual level, " says Gudrun Schyman."
"– The best we can do is to work on prevention, with prevention and education and the questioning of gender stereotypes and destruktiviteten in the male role. "