'Nasty', 'insanely uncomfortable' and 'terrible' should not be words associated with the experience of having sex with a, man dater.
For the 23-year-old former 'Ex on the Beach'-participant Sidsel Borg is precisely this description, however, the hallmark of more than half of the sexual relationships she has had.
In a story on Instagram, she talks openly about how she has several times tried to take home to sleep with a guy who she is not necessarily ready to have sex with, but because the guy didn't take no for an answer, it ends often anyway with sex.
for Extra Magazine she explains:
- It is crazy, and it is also why I choose to tell about it now. I have found out that many of my girlfriends have experienced the same, and it is pouring in with messages from girls who write to me that they have also tried, she says.
the Experience is often similar. She says no repeatedly and trying to get the guy to remove his hands, she says.
- But even when you remove his hands, he puts them back again. And it feels nasty and incredibly uncomfortable, and it is indeed a form of abuse.
- One would seriously just like to have, he removes his hands, but he does not. And eventually think just, to 'well, then I let him fuck me', for when he is finished with it, he lets me be. And it's just, unfortunately, as usually, she says.
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Sidsel Borg think it's about that girl either did not dare to say no, or that you give in order to get peace. She has even experienced it, ever since she began to have sex, and now it must be enough, she says.
- In the situation is the just and thinking 'let me be'. You stand up and say 'now stop you kraftedme', but it should do. And it is also why I think it is important to use the influence I have, and say to my young followers, that one is allowed to say no.
- If I can just get ten girls to not give in, I have done something good. They must not have sex with guys, if they do not want to, as I have had, and my girlfriends also had. This is how the world has been, and it must stop now!, it sounds from the realitystjernen, which has 44.000 followers on Instagram.
Sidsel Castle when she starred in 'Ex on the Beach' in 2018. Photo: Discovery Networks Denmark
As a consequence, to have Sidsel Borg decided that she no longer want to expose themselves to get the situation, where she must say no to a guy 50 times.
- I don't know what makes that one not only gets up and goes, but it is enough, because you like the guy. And this is why it is so important that we talk about it here, for if he does so, he is not a guy one should have anything to do with. So he is just beastly.
- It still happens to me every time I meet a guy, so now I have decided that I should not sleep with a guy, if I'm not ready to have sex with him, for I know that my no will not be taken for a 'no', she says.
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Sidsel Castle hope, that she with his clarion call can make a difference, and get the young girls to realize that they should not have sex if they don't want to.
There was not someone who said to me, that one is allowed to say no, if you do not like, so I would like to say to them now, she says.