You have many excuses and rationalizations, when the you fucker up. You seek to justify acts which you deep inside know is wrong. For example, infidelity.
They can feel real and valid for you, but the fact is, your actions speaks its own clear language for your partner.
So the next time you feel entitled to swipe at the door - and there will be a next time - so it's a good idea just to stop and ask yourself the following ten simple questions.
Therapist and author Susan Pease Gadoua, who stands behind the list, explains that there are typically three main reasons that people are their partner unfaithful: Konfliktskyhed, a feeling of being without power in the relationship, a feeling of to be particularly justified.
In this example, all three reasons in the game: You feel that that is never listened to your needs and to your partner determines the most. You feel you without the power in the relationship. But you dare or will not take the conflicts which will follow with, if you say from. So, in order to take power back over your life do you feel justified to be unfaithful, because your partner, in your eyes, have taken away the power from you.
In other words, is the power relationship in the couple's relationship, the very heart of much infidelity.
Here are the ten questions you need to ask yourself. They will reveal if you are at risk for being unfaithful, and focuses on the konfliktskyhed, power and justification.
Who has the pants on in your relationship?
If you do not feel you are on equal footing with your partner, have you done anything to smooth it? And why have you not done something?
do you Feel that you owe your partner something, that you are not taking your share of the burden. It can be both financial and omsorgsmæssigt?
do you Feel entitled to certain things in life, because you feel that you give more than the other?
Are you able to share your unhappiness or dissatisfaction with your gf?
do you Feel comfortable and convenient when you disagree or argue with your girlfriend? Why not?
there Are power dynamics in your relationship that you would like to change?
do you Feel entitled to do things that you at some level know is wrong or even immoral?
you Take yourself in to complain about your gf to the other but without to take the issue up direct with your partner?
Is the reason why you are not more directly in relation to your girlfriend that you are afraid of how they will react?
Oops, took you actually out of, that you are konfliktsky, you feel the little in the relationship, and that you think that the world and your partner owes you something? So it's about time you do something about it, before you end up with to be unfaithful.
Well, then you have still decided that infidelity is the way forward. It should preferably not be detected, if you have your life and your relationship dear.
So just follow these councils, as the well-known british sex therapist Tracey Cox has given. She has a good enough angled it different: Her advice yesterday on what to keep an eye on at its partner if you suspect him of infidelity.
It is the little paranoidt - so we turn it on and have thus, instead of the unfaithful, so the sidespringet not detected.
When you are captivated by e.g. a colleague, you can get to tell a little too much about him or her. So he said, so he did dat. It is in itself suspicious. And then, when you actually go to bed with him, holding you suddenly stop to mention them, because it is so secret and shameful. And so, it becomes doubly suspicious.
Why: the Numbers, never about the person you are going to swipe.
Yes, you miss the excitement and adventure, festivity and wildness, sex and romance. You yearn for, the, you, was, them In the was. You are traaaat of that relationship is more a 'Project Family' than love and spring water.
Here you can go two ways: Take it up with your partner and find a common solution (but it is too hard for you). Or keep the foot - because if your girlfriend knows that you are unhappy with the state of things, will she or he be more caution on what you are doing and might think that you could find to be unfaithful.
Warning: Your boyfriend may be unfaithful because he or she lacks the tenderness, excitement, and romance.
A classic sign of infidelity is that you've gone around and been angry and irritable, because you are unhappy with the couple's relationship, and when you then suddenly småforelsket in a third-party, you are rollicking and exuberant.
Let be with it. Stay your sure even.
Warning: This can mean that your partner gets so tired of your mukkeri that he/she find something better than you.
Kiss & love - 24. feb. 2018 - at. 21:16 Eight reasons to be unfaithful.
the New habits will automatically make your partner suspicious. Do you work now over, even if you have never before gone home later than 16.30, it may seem strange, and you suddenly meet some colleagues/friends/girlfriends every Thursday night, even though the boyfriend know that you despise them all, so watching it is also suspect out.
So if you absolutely must swipe with someone other than your girlfriend, you must do it at times that do not require new habits.
And it also means that you should not change the entire wardrobe out, because you want to impress the new flirting.
'Sweetheart, why is that pulled 1500 dollars on a hotel last month?', you hear her say when she 'comes to' to read the letter from the bank. You would not like to be confronted with her reproachful glance, when she is faced with a lingerie - or restaurant-receipt, which is found in your pocket when doing the laundry and requests an explanation.
Use only cash and save never receipts.
Mobilvaner is very revealing: Not something to suddenly say, 'I'll call back later', when you speak with the flirting, and the boyfriend comes through the door. And not something to take your mobile phone on the toilet. And remember: Let it always be with the screen facing up (but for god's sake - no notifications!)
It is just hard to come up with valid explanations of why you are trying to list the medicine down in your girlfriend's coffee in the morning, because you have found out that you have chlamydia.
Yes, it is a bit difficult. You can also just not be unfaithful.